How to Talk to Your Child About BrightCanary’s Concerning Content Alerts

By Andrea Nelson
October 23, 2026
Screenshots of BrightCanary concerning content alerts on iOS

At BrightCanary, we believe in respecting kids’ privacy while also protecting their safety. Our concerning content alerts were designed with just that balance in mind. But you might worry about how your child will react when you tell them about an alert you received. Will they get angry or feel it’s an invasion of their privacy? 

I get it. Those concerns are valid. They’re also manageable. Here are some tips and conversation starters for using BrightCanary’s concerning content alerts in a way that’s positive and productive for everyone. 

What are BrightCanary’s concerning content alerts? 

BrightCanary scans everything your child types on their device and sends you real-time alerts to any red flags. 

The alert system automatically looks for common concerns like alcohol and drugs, extremist ideology, and weapons. It’s also frequently trained on the latest slang and internet trends, and you can add custom keywords. You can always access full transcripts if you need more context. 

How to tell your child about BrightCanary alerts

Take these steps when you first start using BrightCanary to set your family up for success. 

1. Lay the groundwork 

Talk to your child before you ever get an alert. Monitoring your child without telling them is spying, and this breach of trust is likely to upset them. Explain to your child why and how you’ll be using BrightCanary. 

Talking points: 

  • “I trust you, but I don't trust the billions of other people online, including some who want to harm kids. BrightCanary will help me support you so you can stay safe.”
  • “In the same way that I taught you to cross the street by yourself, it’s my job to help you learn to use the internet safely.”
  • “If BrightCanary notices something, we'll figure it out together.”

If you have expectations about your child’s online behavior (e.g. not bullying or posting provocative photos) be explicit and put it in writing. If something comes up, everyone might not be happy, but at least you’ll be on the same page.   

Talking points: 

  • “Just like I expect you to act right in person, I expect good behavior online.” 
  • “I have faith in you to do the right thing. But if you make a mistake, we’ll address it.”

2. Listen to their concerns (but remember, you’re the parent) 

I can’t promise your kid will be happy when you tell them about BrightCanary. (Neutral might be the best you can hope for.) What I do know is that it’s totally possible to respect their feelings while standing firm. 

If your child is upset, give them space to air their concerns, compromise if you truly feel it’s right, and hold your ground on what’s important to you. 

Talking points: 

  • “I understand where you’re coming from. I probably would have felt the same way when I was your age. But now that I’m a parent, I see the bigger picture.” 
  • “Thank you for telling me how you feel. It doesn’t change my mind, but I’m glad you feel safe expressing it to me.”
  • “You don’t have to like it, but you do have to respect it.”

What to do when you get a concerning content alert 

When you get a BrightCanary alert, what you do next matters. Here’s how to handle those tough conversations. 

Pick your battles 

Be prepared to let some things go. I know, I know … it’s not easy, but mistakes are how kids learn. Plus, if you make a big deal out of every little thing, they’re liable to start tuning you out. 

Staying quiet on smaller things that don’t impact their safety (profanity or a new boyfriend they’re keeping under wraps, for example) will give more weight to the things that truly matter. 

Remember, context matters

I recently got an alert that my son was trying to create a code to talk to his friend in secret. 

A quick peek at the full transcript revealed it was his cousin, and they were replicating a game they’d started ages ago through snail mail, where they say innocent (though sometimes boy-gross) things. 

My point is, before you jump to the worst-case conclusion, get some context. 

Get curious 

Speaking of context, when you get an alert, don’t forget to ask your kid what happened. Listen without interrupting, and keep an open mind. Combine their perspective with what you find on the BrightCanary transcript and make a plan. (Hint: It’s okay to tell them you need time to think, as long as you regroup soon.) 

Talking points: 

  • “I noticed this on BrightCanary. Tell me what’s going on.” 
  • “Is this something new, or has it been happening for a while?”

Lead with love

Concerning content alerts may bring up strong feelings for you, but freaking out won’t help the situation. When you talk to your child, do your best to stay calm and lead with love. 

Remember: they're still learning, and your job is to guide them with as much empathy and patience as you can muster. (Hugs can help, even if your tween or teen will never admit it.) 

Talking points: 

  • “I’m on your side. I want us to work together to keep you safe.” 
  • “More than anything, I’m worried. And that’s because of how much I love you.”

BrightCanary’s concerning content alerts might bring up big feelings for both you and your child. Transparency and clear expectations help build trust from the get-go. If you get an alert, use BrightCanary’s full transcripts and talk to your child to get the full picture. Lead with love and remember you and your child are on the same team, with a shared goal of keeping them safe.  

Teen girl using TikTok

Even if your child never types “OnlyFans” into a browser, the site can still find your child. OnlyFans is infamous for explicit adult content, and Social media is the primary marketing vehicle for most OnlyFans creators, with posts that toe the line of platforms’ restrictions in an attempt to lure followers to paid content. Even more shocking is the fact that agencies representing OnlyFans creators have been accused of using social media to recruit teenage girls. 

Here’s how social media became a gateway to OnlyFans and a breeding ground for future adult content creators. 

What is OnlyFans? 

OnlyFans is an online platform that features user-generated content. Creators share exclusive photos, videos, and livestreams with their followers. 

Content is monetized through monthly subscriptions, tips, and pay-per-view. Despite recent attempts to rebrand itself, an estimated 70–98% of the site’s content is adult. 

How OnlyFans markets explicit content on social media 

Because OnlyFans lacks a recommendation or preview feature and largely relies on creators’ self-marketing, many OnlyFans creators turn to social media to find new subscribers. They do this by posting content on social media (primarily TikTok and Instagram) that’s suggestive but not outright explicit. Often, that content manages to be both modest and suggestive; think onesie pajamas while doing a TikTok dance involving a lot of jumping and bouncing. They then entice followers over to their paid content on OnlyFans. 

How minors access OnlyFans

The minimum age to access OnlyFans is 18. However, in many locations, there’s no required age verification process. In jurisdictions where laws require adult sites to verify age through a photo ID, some minors turn to VPNs to spoof their location and get access. 

Consuming content isn’t the only way minors can find their way to OnlyFans. A Reuters investigation revealed police and court filings in the U.S. alleging hundreds of explicit videos and images of minors on OnlyFans. 

Social media as a tool to recruit minors 

Marketing efforts on social media by OnlyFans creators not only draw in patrons, but also create a pipeline for future content creators. There are a few ways this happens: 

Social media changes the narrative

One pair of researchers argue that repeated exposure to this type of content on social media shapes adolescents’ perception of OnlyFans as a viable career path. In focus groups with Spanish students aged 12–16, they found that some participants viewed OnlyFans as “an attractive professional alternative,” particularly for conventionally attractive girls. 

Overt recruitment tactics

The Bop House, a content house for a group of young female OnlyFans creators, exploded in popularity a few years ago. The name comes from the slang term “bop,” for a person who has had many sexual partners. The young-looking Bop House residents post videos of themselves dancing and having fun together in their sprawling mansion, like some kind of luxury sleepover. Bop House has periodically put out casting calls on their TikTok looking for new members. 

Victoria Sinis, a former recruiter for an OnlyFans talent agency who now speaks out against the industry, told KHOU that she’s heard of girls as young as 14 storing up their content so they can audition for Bob House when they turn 18. Sinis says her agency had an Instagram page and would use it to bring girls to lavish parties designed to showcase the potential lifestyle being an OnlyFans creator could bring them. 

These promises are often a ruse. Despite high-profile creators like The Bop House, only a small fraction make the kind of money girls are promised. The average OnlyFans creator earns just $131 per month after the 20% platform fee. 

Covert grooming 

Some OnlyFans “talent agents” use social media to reach out directly to potential recruits, including minors, enticing them to make adult content once they turn 18. One such agent was recently arrested on human trafficking charges. 

The TikTok to OnlyFans pipeline: What parents can do 

Protect your child with these steps: 

  • Block adult websites. Use built-in controls on your child’s device to block OnlyFans and other adult websites. 
  • Check for VPN use. Look for these signs that your child is using a VPN to access adult sites.  
  • Monitor your child’s online activity. BrightCanary monitors everything your child types on their device across all platforms and websites, so you can see if they visit OnlyFans, search for adult creators on social media, or message with someone trying to recruit them. You’ll get a real-time alert to any red flags. 

BrightCanary automatically scans for signs of adult content, and you can add custom keywords, like these hashtags and keywords associated with OnlyFans and the adult industry: 

  • #304 (spells h*e upside down on a calculator)
  • #304baddies
  • #Bop
  • #BopHouse
  • #accountant (associated with adult entertainers)
  • “Exclusive content”
  • “Behind-the-scenes”

Social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok have become pipelines to OnlyFans, the site known for adult content. OnlyFans creators post suggestive TikTok and Instagram content to draw in followers, and “talent agencies” have been accused of recruiting teens with promises of wealth that rarely materialize. You can protect your child by blocking adult sites, watching for VPN use, and monitoring online activity for warning signs.

Teen using CapCut to edit video

When I was asked to investigate if CapCut is safe for kids, I was skeptical I’d uncover any risks worth alerting parents about. I’ve used CapCut for light video editing, and it seemed innocuous. 

I stand corrected. 

CapCut has benefits for kids and it’s possible to use it safely, but there are also some big risks.

What is CapCut?

CapCut is a video editing tool developed by TikTok’s parent company that’s popular with young users. It’s designed for creating short-form content to post on social media. 

How does CapCut work? 

With CapCut’s wide arsenal of tools, users can: 

  • Edit videos or photos from scratch 
  • Drop videos into pre-designed templates 
  • Overlay text, including automated captions 
  • Apply filters, transitions, and other visual effects
  • Add music and sound effects
  • Use AI tools: background removal, quality enhancement, photo editor, video and image generation, and visual effects
  • Upload directly to TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube
  • View a social-media-like feed of templates made by other creators
  • Like and comment on others’ templates 

CapCut minimum age

The minimum age to use CapCut is 13, but verification is only a user-provided birthdate, so it’s easy to bypass. 

Does CapCut have parental controls? 

CapCut doesn’t have parental controls. There also aren’t meaningful privacy or content settings. Users can delete their watch history, making it difficult to monitor what your child views.  

What is the CapCut Creator program? 

To understand the risks to kids, you have to understand the CapCut Creator program, which introduces social-media-like elements to the app. 

  • Approved CapCut Creators can upload templates for others to use. Creators earn money based on how well their templates perform.
  • Browsing templates feels like scrolling TikTok. 
  • Users can follow their favorite creators, whose templates appear in a feed under “Following.” 
  • A “For You” feed has suggested template videos. 
  • According to the Terms of Service, users under 18 must have parental consent to join the Creator program, but there appears to be no mechanism for granting consent. 

Risks to kids from CapCut

Exposure to strangers 

There’s no direct message feature, but strangers can still connect with your child: 

  • Users can leave public comments on templates.
  • In their bio, users can link to other social media accounts where direct messaging is allowed. 
  • Some users include their phone number in their bio.
  • Some template videos display a creator’s phone number with the text “Call Me.” 

With BrightCanary monitoring, you can see what your child is messaging on all the apps they use — including CapCut. 

Age-inappropriate material

Nudity isn’t allowed, but it slips through. You’ll also find mature themes, explicit language, and clothed but suggestive videos in templates. There are also videos which are blurred out with the text “Export to see.” By downloading the video and then re-uploading it to CapCut, users can remove the top layer to expose the underlying (often explicit) content. 

Self-esteem and body image 

CapCut’s filters can do everything from light retouches like smoothing skin to mimicking cosmetic procedures by reshaping the body and facial features. Manipulated videos like this create a distorted idea of beauty and can lead to lower body image and self-esteem.  

Privacy and data collection concerns

ByteDance, the parent company of TikTok and CapCut isn’t known for its prudent use of user data. This includes accusations that they harvest significantly more data than similar platforms and even that they share user data with the Chinese government.

These allegations relate to TikTok, but it doesn’t instill confidence in how they handle CapCut user data.   

No control over how content is used

If your child joins the Creator program and starts posting templates, they have no control over how others will use their videos. 

Once content is posted, CapCut instantly retains a worldwide, perpetual, irrevocable license to use, edit, distribute, and sublicense content your child uploads to the platform. They can do so on any platform and for broad purposes. 

Yikes.

Benefits to kids from CapCut

There are compelling reasons to let kids use CapCut: 

  • Creative expression 
  • Developing video editing skills 
  • Easy for beginners to use
  • Active vs. passive screen time

But, as with any app parents let their kids use, you’ll have to weigh the cost vs. reward and whether CapCut is safe for your kids.

How to protect your child on CapCut 

1. Opt them out of third-party tracking 

  • Tap “Me” in the lower-right hand corner. 
  • Tap on the hexagon on the upper-right hand corner. 
  • Tap on “Your Privacy Choices.”
  • Slide left to turn off third-party tracking

2. Minimize how much information your child shares

Tell them not to link their CapCut to social media accounts, and emphasize never sharing personal info with strangers.

4. Limit what CapCut can access on your child’s device

  • On Android: go to Settings > Apps > CapCut > Permissions
  • On iPhone: go to Settings > CapCut. Turn off location, and turn off microphone and camera access if your child is only editing existing footage versus recording something in-app.

5. Monitor their use 

BrightCanary can help you monitor your child on CapCut, even if they delete their viewing history. BrightCanary monitors everything they type so you can see what your child searches on CapCut, the comments they leave, and the messages they send on other apps. You also get real-time alerts to any red flags.  

Final word: is CapCut safe for kids? 

When used to edit and create videos, CapCut can be a great means of creative expression for kids. But the social-media-like templates feature introduces risks like exposure to strangers and inappropriate material. Tell your child not to share personal information and monitor their use. 

Teen taking picture for Instagram

It might feel like no big deal to hand your child an account the minute they turn 13, particularly after Instagram’s public push for Teen Accounts. But the reality is more complicated. Instagram poses both benefits and risks to kids, and its promised protections aren’t always what they seem. Here’s what to consider when deciding if your child is ready for Instagram.

Instagram minimum age

In most of the United States, the minimum age for Instagram is 13 (14 in Florida). 

The risks of Instagram for kids 

Instagram’s promised safeguards for kids have repeatedly failed to materialize or work correctly. Hopefully, Meta’s $17.1 billion settlement and oversight will hold them better accountable. 

For now, kids face these risks without meaningful mitigation: 

  • Negative body image. Research links social media use and negative body image in adolescents, particularly when viewing images manipulated by filters. 
  • Mental health implications. Research hasn’t definitively proven if social media causes mental health issues or whether kids with existing mental health issues use it to cope, but there’s a clear link, and the potential harms shouldn’t be ignored.  
  • Targeting of vulnerable teens. Whistleblower Sarah Wynn-Williams accused Meta of deliberately targeting vulnerable teens, like serving girls ads for beauty products immediately after deleting a selfie. 
  • Predators. Instagram is a prime place for predators to target kids. Despite Instagram’s assurances that new safeguards limit contact with unknown adults, researchers found more than half were broken or not available. 
  • Cyberbullying. Social media like Instagram has exacerbated bullying because the 24/7 nature of the internet doesn’t allow respite, bullying can be broadcast widely, and bullies can hide behind a screen. 
  • Harmful content. Researchers found Instagram’s promises to block self-harm, suicide, and eating disorder content not only failed to work, but its autocomplete actively suggested misspellings used to evade filters. 
  • Social pressure. Posts and stories often broadcast who’s hanging out and what they’re up to, pressuring kids to keep up with their peers. 

Instagram benefits for kids 

Alongside the risks, Instagram and other social media platforms can also be good for kids:

  • Social connection. Instagram can help kids stay connected and strengthen existing friendships.
  • Self-expression. When used for self-expression, Instagram may boost kids' self-esteem. 
  • Support and representation for marginalized youth. Seeing positive role models who share their identity is a powerful benefit for marginalized youth, especially in less diverse communities. Studies show peer connections, identity development, and support on social media may bolster LGBTQIA+ kids' mental health, and seven in 10 adolescent BIPOC girls say they’ve encountered content that affirms their racial identity on social media. 

How does Instagram protect teens? 

Instagram Teen Accounts provide some protections, like default private accounts and content filters. Under the terms of a major settlement in 2026, Meta must adopt these additional measures: 

  • Daily limits. After two cumulative hours, teens will be locked out for the day.
  • Improved content controls. Stronger safeguards against harmful content like bullying, eating disorders, suicide, and self-harm. 
  • Stronger parental controls, including seeing the usernames of your child’s connections and who’s messaging them. Parents will also get notified if they search for terms related to eating disorders, suicide, or self-harm; message an adult account for the first time; or create a secondary account. 
  • Quiet hours. No feed access from 12:00 a.m. to 6:00 a.m. Teens can still message, but notifications will be silenced from 10:00 p.m. to 7:00 a.m.
  • No push notifications during school hours. 
  • Limited social comparison features. The total number of likes and reactions on posts will be hidden. 
  • No access to filters that mimic cosmetic cosmetic procedures. 

How to decide if your child is ready for Instagram

Here’s what to consider: 

The risks vs. the benefits 

The risks and benefits of Instagram don’t impact all kids equally. If your child struggles with an eating disorder, they’re likely more vulnerable to disordered eating content and slimming filters. If they’re LGBTQIA+ or BIPOC and don’t have regular, in-person access to peers and role models who share their identity, Instagram could be a net positive experience for them. 

Their maturity

More important than age is maturity level. Consider: 

  • How your child handles criticism, rejection, peer pressure, and negative interactions
  • If they have good self-regulation skills
  • Their ability to read social cues
  • How well they follow general safety rules
  • Their ability to assess risk
  • Their impulse control
  • Their intellectual development

How they handle other digital content 

How your child handles screens in general can help predict how they’ll do with social media.

  • Do they follow screen time rules? 
  • Is it difficult for them to stop using continuously stimulating media like video games? 
  • Do they understand and observe safety considerations online, like not seeking out inappropriate material or not messaging strangers on gaming platforms? 

Tips for protecting your child on Instagram

If and when you let your child on Instagram, these steps can help keep them safe:

  • Parental controls. Imperfect as they may be, Instagram’s parental controls still offer some protection. Use all available options and keep an eye on changes as the court-ordered measures roll out.  
  • Digital check-ins. Regularly sit with your child and look at their account together. Talk about how posts make them feel, ask them why they follow certain creators, and make it clear your door is always open. 
  • Monitoring app. A third-party monitoring app like BrightCanary helps you fill in the gaps where Instagram’s protections fail. It monitors everything your child types and sends you real-time, customizable alerts to any concerns, along with full transcripts and emotional insights.

Final word: What age should kids get Instagram?

It depends on your child’s maturity level and your comfort level as a parent. Instagram would have you believe their Teen Accounts mean the platform is safe for any child over 13, but the safeguards they’ve promised have failed time and time again. A new settlement will hopefully hold their feet to the fire and introduce meaningful protections for teens. If your child uses Instagram, use available parental controls and monitor their activity.  

1950s style woman vacuuming

On the heels of the smash-hit novel Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke and the buzz surrounding the upcoming film adaptation starring Anne Hathaway, the tradwife movement is having a reckoning. 

Despite how soothing it might be to watch someone milk a cow and grind their own wheat to make grilled cheese from scratch (yes, this is a real example), there’s more to the movement than sourdough starters and cottagecore couture. 

#Tradwife is filling teens’ social media feeds with rigid gender roles, racism, and extreme ideologies. It’s even been called the female manosphere. 

What is a tradwife?

Tradwife (a portmanteau of “traditional” and “wife”) is an online subculture promoting traditional gender roles for women, such as being a stay-at-home mother, bearing lots of children, and submitting to their husband’s authority. The movement is characterized by a clean, retro aesthetic of 1950s-middle-class white domesticity with a heavy splash of rural homesteading. 

#Tradwife hit virality in the early 2020s, buoyed by COVID’s forced retreat inside just as the rise of algorithms reshaped social media feeds in a way that favors controversial viewpoints. 

How teen girls get caught in the tradwife fantasy

Tradwife influencers are predominately young — many are teens themselves — and they’re catching the eye of teen girls online. 

  • Algorithms. In their thirst for engagement, algorithms are more than happy to fill teen girls’ feeds with content from tradwife influencers. 
  • The appeal of the “simple” life: While making homemade bubble gum (yep, also real) doesn’t scream “simple,” it’s easy to see how some teen girls, facing pressure to achieve the mythical nirvana of work-life balance, may be drawn to instead focus their efforts on just one realm. 
  • Dismal job prospects: For teens who’ve spent recent years watching their slightly-older peers graduate college into a bleak employment landscape, financial security through a partner can be appealing. 
  • Artificial Intelligence. Research suggests that AI poses a greater threat to industries dominated by women. Teens may face these existential fears by dreaming of fulfillment on the homefront. 
  • Money. Despite promoting 1950s-inspired lifestyle with the male as the sole breadwinner, high-profile tradwife influencers have made serious bank from their content. 

The risks to teens from the tradwife movement 

I need to pause here to be very clear: deciding to be a stay-at-home mom is a valid choice. It’s also a financial necessity for growing numbers of families. I’m not talking about a mutually agreed-upon domestic balance that leans toward gender norms. I’m talking about an ideology that celebrates male dominance, female submission, and financial dependency. Here are the risks: 

Unrealistic expectations 

Influencers only show what they want us to see. Tradwife content is often a fallacy propped up by smoke and mirrors, generational wealth, and invisible household staff. Most people can’t afford this kind of heavily curated existence. 

Financial dependency

The trend in the tradwife community is to marry young and reproduce prolifically, often foregoing college and starting a career. Coupled with the submissive dependence the movement encourages, this sets teen girls up to struggle to support themselves should the marriage go sour. 

Sexism

A portion of tradwife influencers promote taking away a woman's right to vote in favor of a single household vote cast by her husband. 

Racism

One prominent tradwife issued a “white-baby challenge,” and even tradwives who don’t openly identify with racist ideas often use hashtags such as #14words and #1488 to signal their allegiance to white supremacy. 

Rigid gender roles 

A cornerstone of tradwife culture is the return to “traditional values” of domesticity for women and moral authority for men. The picture of femininity they promote is narrow and rigid, with a woman’s place in the home, submitting to her husband, and bearing flocks of children. 

Exposure to extreme ideologies 

There’s a significant overlap between the tradwife movement and alt-right ideologies.

What parents can do 

Monitor what your teen engages with online

Use digital check-ins and a monitoring app like BrightCanary to supervise your child’s online activity and see if they engage with tradwife content. Keep an eye out for these associated hashtags: 

  • #housewifelife
  • #tradwife
  • #homemaker
  • #tradlife
  • #traditionalwife
  • #traditionalfemininity
  • #tradwives 
  • #biblicalwomanhood
  • #femininenotfeminist

Help them reset their algorithm 

If your teen’s algorithm is filled with tradwife content, resetting their algorithm can help balance things out.

Expose them to diverse gender expressions

Balance rigid gender narratives they may see online by exposing them to a wide range of ideas on what it means to be a woman. 

Tradwife culture promotes traditional, often rigid gender roles such as “a woman's place is in the home” and “a wife should submit to her husband’s authority.” The movement also has significant overlap with racist, sexist, and alt-right ideas. To protect your teen against the harms of the tradwife movement, monitor their online activity, help them reset their algorithm, and expose them to diverse gender expressions.

TikTok Shop screenshots

I’m low-key biding my time until the teens in my life replace their Amazon Christmas wish lists with links to TikTok Shop. TikTok users are just one swipe away from tens of millions of products that can be purchased without leaving the app. But is TikTok Shop safe for kids? Let’s find out. 

What is TikTok Shop? 

TikTok Shop is an online marketplace where users can buy and sell products inside the app. 

Far from the static experience of other selling platforms like eBay and Facebook Marketplace, TikTok Shop is an interactive experience featuring influencer content, personalized recommendations, and embedded social features like sharing. 

How to access TikTok Shop

TikTok Shop can be accessed through the “Shop” tab. Creators can also include links to TikTok Shop products in their videos. These promotional posts amount to semi-stealth commercials and frequently appear on users’ For You Page. 

Can teen accounts use TikTok Shop? 

Officially, teen accounts can’t use TikTok Shop. But like most things social media, the reality is more nuanced, with a few workarounds for motivated kids. Here’s what I discovered when I tested it: 

Can teen accounts purchase items on TikTok Shop? 

Users under 18 are prohibited from accessing TikTok Shop. In my test account for a 13-year-old, “Shop” didn’t even appear in the header menu. But I was able to create an adult account with only a fake birthdate and purchase from TikTok Shop. 

Can teen accounts sell items on TikTok Shop? 

I ran into more substantial barriers when I tried to become a seller on TikTok Shop using my fake account. I was prompted to upload a government-issued ID before continuing. Enterprising teens could figure a way around this, but it’s certainly a strong barrier. 

I was also asked to provide a Social Security number. I bailed before that step because I’m not trying to give that level of information to TikTok, so I can’t verify if TikTok cross-references social security numbers with the age of the holder. But if so, this step is much harder (and much more illegal) to game. 

Can teen accounts market items on TikTok Shop? 

I was prompted to enter the same identifying documents as when I tried to become a seller. 

A number of sources state that age verification isn’t required to create affiliate accounts and earn commission from promoting TikTok Shop products. This information appears to be outdated. My testing found this loophole has been closed. 

TL;DR: It’s quite a heavy lift for your child to sell or market TikTok Shop merchandise, but purchasing items is only one fabricated birthday away. 

Does TikTok Shop have parental controls? 

Because teen accounts can’t access TikTok Shop, parental controls don’t apply. 

What are the risks to kids from TikTok Shop? 

  • Scammers. Boy, howdy, are scams a thing on TikTok Shop. (This is true of all social media platforms, to be fair.) An FTC report found that, in 2025, TikTok users were scammed to the tune of $79 million. This is lower than other platforms, but considering only 4.8% of defrauded consumers report it to the Better Business Bureau or a government body, this is likely a massive undercount. 
  • Unsafe “health and wellness” products. Influencers earn commission for selling products linked in TikTok Shop, which means they’re not necessarily incentivized to verify the product’s legitimacy. “Wellness” products with dubious claims suddenly look a whole lot more legit when they’re touted by a kid’s favorite creator. Add to that the rise of “deepfake doctors” selling sketchy health products on TikTok, and it’s easy to see how kids can be duped. 
  • Sneaky consumerism. Users can become quite attached to their favorite creators. When those creators rave about a product they can’t live without, it can feel more like valuable advice from a big sis than an advertisement trying to make cash from your kid.  
  • Impulsive purchases. Without the incidental pause and moment of consideration that comes from navigating to a distinct website and entering payment information, it’s extremely easy for kids to make impulsive purchases on TikTok Shop. 

How to help your child stay safe on TikTok Shop 

  • Don’t let them use it. Verify your child’s account has their real birthdate and look for signs of a FakeTok. 
  • Teach them to spot scams. Show them these tips for avoiding scams.
  • Monitor their online activity. BrightCanary scans everything your child types across all platforms, so you can see what they’re searching for on TikTok. 

Final word: Is TikTok Shop safe for kids?

Scams, deepfake doctors selling dubious health products, and the risk of impulsive buying make TikTok Shop not safe for kids. Age verification is easy to fake, though, so make sure they’re on a teen account and monitor their use with BrightCanary.

Learn more about parental controls on TikTok, and find out how to limit purchases with Apple Screen Time controls. 

Isolated teen boy susceptible to the True Crime Community online

True crime as a genre is hotter than ever. (SSDGM; IYKYK.) But indulging in podcasts, documentaries, and books shouldn’t be confused with the True Crime Community (TCC), a dangerous internet subculture frequented by kids that glorifies mass shooters. Here’s everything you need to know about TCC, including warning signs your child is involved and what you can do to protect them from its influence. 

What is TCC?

TCC is a decentralized online community fascinated with violence and mass shootings. Members create and share works glorifying real-world acts of violence, including fan art, fan fiction, and stylized videos and photos elevating perpetrators. They also share videos capturing violent acts and disseminate perpetrators’ manifestos and personal writings. 

Analysis by the Combating Terrorism Center (CTC) and the Center on Extremism have found that TCC followers skew concerningly young, with many teens and preteens actively participating.

Risks to kids from TCC

  • Exposure to violent content. TCC members often gather on forums dedicated to sharing and viewing images of real-world violence such as murder, torture, suicide, and gruesome accidents. 
  • Encouragement to commit violence. Many TCC followers reject committing real-world violence, but a small subset encourages emulation of these acts. According to the Anti-Defamation League, involvement in TCC has been linked to at least 23 violent attacks worldwide, including 17 which were deadly. 
  • Dangerous parasocial relationships. The CTC explains that some TCC adherents deeply identify with specific perpetrators based on perceived similarities. According to the CTC, these relationships don’t guarantee violent behavior but can be a stepping stone toward such actions.
  • Suicide. TCC culture promotes self-destructive acts, like “suicide by cop,” as a means for both escape and enduring notoriety. Involvement in TCC has been linked to at least one suicide. 

Where kids get involved with TCC

Because TCC isn’t one centralized website or forum, there are a number of places where kids can encounter it. 

Gaming platforms

Online gaming — particularly sandbox or open-play-style platforms, like Roblox or Garry’s Mod, that allow players to create and share content — are popular with TCC. In “TCC games,” real-world mass shootings are recreated. 

Gore forums 

Cody Zoschak, from the Institute for Strategic Dialogue, told NPR that gore forums like Documenting Reality and WatchPeopleDie are common pipelines to TCC for boys. 

Eating disorder forums 

According to Zoschak, girls are more likely to encounter TCC through online eating disorder communities.

Social media 

TCC is active on most social media platforms, but is most visible on TikTok, Discord, Pinterest, and Telegram. 

What makes kids susceptible to TCC

Because their brains aren’t fully formed and adolescence is a turbulent phase of development, kids are particularly vulnerable to the negative impact of graphic violence and extremism online. Certain factors can increase their susceptibility to falling into a community like TCC:

Interpersonal issues 

Struggles at home or at school can lead some kids to empathize with the outcast archetype of mass shooters. 

Mental health issues

Research identifies these mental health issues as common in perpetrators of school shootings, including those linked with TCC: depression, eating disorders, substance abuse, self-harm, social anxiety, suicidal ideation, and obsessive thoughts. 

Social struggles

TCC is known for embracing outcasts, and kids who are bullied or feel alienated from their peers may be drawn to the sense of belonging. 

Warning signs your child might be into TCC

  • Use of related hashtags: #TCC, #teeceecee, #truecringecommunity.
  • “Okay” gesture. Some TCC-affiliated school shooters have posted photos of themselves making the “okay” gesture right before the act, leading to the symbol being used for clout within the community (often without violent intent). 
  • Emulating perpetrators of mass violence. TCC adherents often adopt the clothing style, interests, and musical tastes of mass shooters. 
  • Use of related symbols. The military helmet emoji and misanthropic flag, logo, and definition are associated with more extreme corners of the TCC community.
  • Usernames inspired by past attackers.  
  • AI-generated videos of mass shooters. AI-generated videos of former shooters performing benign actions like putting on makeup or using water guns, or AI-generated photos of your child posing with shooters. 
  • A fixation on violence, weapons, or school shootings. 
  • Wearing a skull gaiter mask.
  • Wearing shirts with these sayings: “wrath,” “natural selection,” “negative XP,” and “humanity is overrated.”

How to protect your child from TCC

Watch for warning signs 

Pay attention to your child’s behavior, both online and off. BrightCanary helps you monitor their online activity and sends real-time alerts to red flags, such as conversions about violence, concerning Google searches, and chats with new contacts. 

Help them find offline connection

Many kids find their way to TCC because they feel like they don’t fit in elsewhere; helping your child foster offline friendships can be protective. 

Open dialogue 

Ask questions and make it clear you are there to support your child no matter what. 

Build a support system 

If you’re concerned, enlist other trusted adults to help you support your child, and consider professional mental health support. 

Act immediately for imminent concerns

If you’re concerned your child is planning to hurt themselves or others, these free crisis resources can help:

True Crime Community (TCC) is an online subculture that glorifies violence and mass shootings and counts many teens and preteens in its ranks. Involvement in TCC puts kids at risk of exposure to violent content, encouragement to commit violence, dangerous parasocial relationships, and suicide. 

To protect your child, monitor their online activity for warning signs, help them create offline connections, and take swift action if you spot concerns. 

Teen using AI on smartphone while doing homework

According to my 14-year-old niece, teens hate using AI — except for homework. This isn’t hard evidence, but it still raises uncomfortable questions. 

School districts are increasingly imposing moratoriums on AI, but it’s now embedded in our lives in ways that make preventing kids from using it complicated. 

This article addresses three questions: Should kids use AI for homework? Can we actually stop them? And how do we teach them to use it safely and responsibly?  

The risks of kids using AI for homework 

Early research suggests that the risks of kids using AI for education outweigh the benefits, and some experts suggest kids should never use generative AI. Here are some of the risks of letting kids use AI for homework without guardrails:

It may change their brains in irreparable ways 

A report by the Brookings Institution's Center for Universal Education asserts that students who offload too much of their own thinking to AI can experience cognitive decline or atrophy at a level more commonly seen in aging brains. 

Research on this is in its infancy, but kids who overuse AI may miss the critical developmental window for certain cognitive skills, and these skills may not be recoverable later.  

Reduces necessary friction

Struggling to figure out a math problem or craft an essay is an essential component to the learning process. Using AI to eliminate that friction also reduces the learning opportunity. 

It’s still wrong a shocking amount of the time

Analysis by the New York Times found that Google’s AI overview produces tens of millions of incorrect answers per hour. 

The hidden AI problem 

Banning Claude or ChatGPT doesn’t actually stop kids from using AI. The technology is now so embedded in everyday products that kids no longer have to seek out AI; AI finds them. 

  • Google Overview and AI mode: Google automatically generates AI summaries at the top of most searches, and clicking over to AI mode gives kids instant access to an AI chatbot. Neither can be turned off, and both were given an “unacceptable risk” rating by Common Sense Media. 
  • Software integration: Common software used by students like Microsoft Word, Google Docs, Canva, and PowerPoint have built-in generative AI capabilities. 
  • AI-generated web content: Informational websites students use for research may well include content generated or informed by AI and may not be labeled as such. 

Teaching kids to use AI critically

Since zero exposure is impossible, the goal then becomes teaching kids AI literacy and critical thinking. These tips help them avoid some of the AI pitfalls:

Help them understand AI’s limitations and risks

Kids need to know what they’re up against. Explain your concerns (and those of experts). Help your child see AI as a tool, not an infallible replacement for human expertise and judgment. 

Give them an AI-free search engine 

Alternative search engines like DuckDuckGo offer an AI-free option, and Startpage uses Google search results without AI mode or overviews. 

Emphasize the importance of verifying facts

Use reputable sources to verify any information provided by AI. That might mean cross-checking information with established news organizations, and looking beyond the headlines — for example, if an AI answer is pulling a statistic, double-check that the statistic actually exists and is accurate.

Encourage a diverse range of research tools 

Don’t sleep on other research tools like school and public libraries, news outlets, Google Scholar, and academic institution websites. 

Turn on ChatGPT study mode

ChatGPT study mode uses guided reasoning versus instant answers. In my testing, I found it was easy to convince it to do the work for me by telling it I was checking my answers, but it’s a better option than using ChatGPT without study mode. 

Introduce alternative chatbots 

The big players aren’t the only bots in the game. This chatbot from Critical Thinking Labs was designed to encourage critical thinking. Like ChatGPT study mode, it’s not a perfect solution, but it guides users to deepen their process and is far less eager to do the work for you than its counterparts. 

Foster curiosity

Encourage your child’s curiosity and help them follow their interests. The Brookings Institution report suggests that students are less inclined to have AI do homework for them if they feel engaged by the work. 

Model critical thinking 

As parents, we need to develop and model our own critical thinking skills around AI. Here are some excellent resources to guide you.

How BrightCanary can help you teach your child to use AI responsibly 

BrightCanary is a child monitoring app that helps you keep track of: 

  • What your child searches on Google, including what they ask the built-in AI chatbot, Gemini
  • What AI apps they’re using, whether it’s one you’ve heard of (like ChatGPT) or one you’d rather that not use (like Character.ai or Polybuzz)
  • What kind of questions they’re asking chatbots — and when those questions verge into red-flag territory, like questions about self-harm or emotional dependency

This information is valuable as you guide them to use AI responsibly. For more tips, download our free downloadable AI toolkit for parents.

AI is increasingly unavoidable for kids when doing homework. That’s because it’s embedded into search results and common software. 

Because of the risks of using AI for homework, such as missing the critical window for developing cognitive skills and the potential to reduce learning, you should take steps to help your child learn AI critical thinking skills. 

Fostering curiosity, modeling critical thinking in how you use AI, and encouraging them to explore diverse research tools are some of the ways you can support your child as they navigate AI in their education.

Teen boy scrolling Snapchat

By some measures, Snapchat is the most popular app for teens. Anecdotally, teens in my life tell me they don’t text each other anymore; they Snap. But is Snapchat safe for teens? Let’s take a look. 

What is Snapchat? 

Snapchat is a photo- and video-centric social media platform. Users can: 

  • Share pictures or videos (known as Snaps) with friends and family.
  • View trending stories from brands and public accounts (called Spotlight). 
  • Message friends. 
  • Store stories or Snaps in a passcode-protected vault.
  • Share their location with friends.
  • Video chat with up to 15 friends at once.

What are the risks to teens from using Snapchat? 

AI

My AI, Snapchat’s AI chatbot, is turned on by default, leaving teens exposed to privacy concerns such as targeted ads and stored chats. Snapchat has added filters for teens using My AI since its initial messy launch, but the possibility of inappropriate responses remains. 

Drug dealers 

The Drug Enforcement Agency has identified Snapchat as a platform where criminal drug networks operate. Teens have died after purchasing drugs laced with fentanyl through Snapchat, and the company faces dozens of lawsuits from families. 

Difficult for parents to monitor 

  • Disappearing messages make it difficult to monitor your child’s communication. 
  • Snapchat’s My Eyes Only is a hidden, passcode-protected vault where your child can hide Snaps or Stories. 
  • Snapchat’s parental controls let you see who your child is chatting with in the app, but provide no insight into content. (For that, you’d need BrightCanary monitoring.) 

Addictive 

Snapstreaks, disappearing content, and infinite scroll put teen users at risk of addictive behavior. The company faces numerous ongoing lawsuits alleging that Snapchat is not only aware of this risk, but that its product is designed to drive compulsive use by minors. 

Unhealthy beauty standards

Snapchat’s filters and editing tools let users finesse their appearance to such a drastic degree that it’s greatly altered the way teens — particularly girls — view beauty standards, negatively impacting their happiness and self-esteem. 

Does Snapchat have teen accounts? 

Snapchat has enhanced protections for teens, including newly released safety measures for users 13–15. Highlights include: 

  • Enhanced friend-request filtering.
  • Teens are blocked from strangers’ search results.
  • No public posting option for teens 13–15, and limited public posting for 16–17 year olds. 

Does Snapchat have parental controls? 

Snapchat offers these parental controls through Family Center: 

  • View your teen’s friends. See a list of their new and existing friends and how they may be connected. 
  • See who your teen communicates with. View who they’ve chatted with on the app over the past seven days and how frequently they’ve interacted with them. 
  • Get insight into their usage. See how much time your teen has spent on Snapchat over the past week, including a breakdown by each feature. 
  • Report concerning accounts. You can help your teen report suspicious behavior, or report it on their behalf.
  • Track their location. You can request to see your teen’s location and share yours with them. 
  • Disable My AI replies. Prevent your teen from chatting with Snapchat’s AI chatbot and block My AI from viewing and storing their messages. 

How to view your child’s messages in Snapchat

Unfortunately, Snapchat’s Family Center only shows you who your child has been chatting with and how often, not the content of their messages. 

Most third-party parental monitoring apps don’t work with Snapchat on Apple devices, but BrightCanary has you covered. You can use BrightCanary to view everything your child types on Snapchat (and all platforms). You’ll also get customizable, real-time alerts to any red flags. 

How old do you have to be to use Snapchat? 

U.S. users must be 13 to use Snapchat.

Does Snapchat have age verification? 

Users must self-attest their date of birth, but Snapchat has no additional age verification, and it’s easy for kids to fib about their age.

Is Snapchat safe for 13-year-olds?

Just because your child can use Snapchat, doesn’t mean they should. 

Common Sense Media advises teens to wait until at least 16 before using Snapchat, which is older than their recommendation for other social media platforms. They cite disappearing messages and the app's reputation for sexting, among other concerns. 

After years of reviewing and writing about social media, I agree: Snapchat isn’t safe for 13-year-olds. The platform has made progress toward safety, but the remaining risks are simply not worth it. It’s best to wait.  

How to help your child use Snapchat safely 

If you decide to let your child use Snapchat, use these tips to help them do so more safely: 

  • Set up Family Center. Check out our guide for instructions. 
  • Monitor their use. BrightCanary monitors everything your child types on Snapchat and alerts you to any red flags. 
  • Share your concerns with your teen. The best approach to safety is a collaborative one. Explain to your teen that your goal is to help them stay safe. Check in with them about how they feel after using Snapchat, and make it clear they can come to you with any concerns. 

Bottom line: Is Snapchat safe for teens?

Snapchat’s teen safety features and parental controls allow for a reasonably locked-down experience, but remaining risks such as unhealthy beauty standards, addiction risk, and difficulty monitoring their use make it unsafe for teens under 16. 

If your child uses Snapchat, you should set up parental controls, explain the risks, and monitor their use with BrightCanary.

Two kids using Snapchat's My Eyes Only feature

Snapchat’s My Eyes Only is a feature you’ve likely never heard of, but really should know about. That’s because your child could be using it to hide things from you. Here’s everything you need to know about the feature. 

What is My Eyes Only on Snapchat? 

Snapchat’s My Eyes Only feature is a passcode-protected vault where a user can privately store Snaps or Stories. Only photo Snaps and video Snaps shorter than 10 seconds can be moved to My Eyes Only.

How does Snapchat’s My Eyes Only work? 

Before we get into why you should be concerned about My Eyes Only, let’s take a look at how it functions. 

How to set up and access Snapchat’s my Eyes only

  • On Snapchat, click the camera icon at the bottom.
  • Swipe up to access Memories. 
  • On the far right of the top navigation bar, click My Eyes Only.
  • When prompted, select a passcode. (Note: There’s no way to recover a forgotten passcode.) 

How to store Snaps and Stories in My Eyes Only

  • Save the Snap or Story to Memories.
  • From the Memories section, tap the Snaps or Stories you want to move. 
  • Tap “Hide Snaps (My Eyes Only)” at the bottom.
  • Tap “Move.”
  • If prompted, enter your passcode. 

Should you be concerned about your child using My Eyes Only?

If your child uses My Eyes Only, they could be doing so for non-worrisome reasons, like wanting to show a friend their memories, but not all their memories, or a developmentally appropriate desire for privacy. But it also could be a big reason for concern. 

It’s difficult to monitor

Snapchat is already an inherently difficult platform for parents to monitor because, by default, messages disappear after just 24 hours. 

My Eyes Only further complicates the issue. Snapchat and other social media platforms limit what images child monitoring apps like BrightCanary can access, meaning you’ll need to also use digital check-ins to monitor Snapchat images. 

The problem is, most parents don’t know about My Eyes Only, making it an easy hiding place. 

There could be serious consequences

I don’t want to freak you out, but it’s worth the thought experiment of playing out the worst-case scenario. One thing a kid might store in My Eyes Only are sexts or AI-generated nudes. 

The legal and technical details are complicated, but under certain circumstances, law enforcement may be able to access items stored in My Eyes Only.

Nude images of minors, even when they’re generated by AI, are illegal under federal law. State laws vary, but kids have been charged with both misdemeanors and felonies. If found guilty, depending on the state, they may be required to register as a sex offender for the rest of their lives.

What to do if you’re concerned about Snapchat’s My Eyes Only

  • Get curious. The best place to start is a simple conversation. Ask your child if they’re familiar with Snapchat’s My Eyes Only and if they ever use it. If they say yes, rather than assuming they’re up to no good, ask them why they use My Eyes Only.
  • Explain your concerns. Be clear that you aren’t trying to spy on them, but that you want to make sure they’re not storing anything harmful or that could or get them in trouble.  
  • Set expectations. Get on the same page about what you expect from their online behavior and put it in writing with a digital device contract. 
  • Use a monitoring app. While Snapchat prevents BrightCanary from monitoring images stored in My Eyes Only, it can monitor everything they type on Snapchat and all other platforms, making it a vital part of a holistic monitoring plan. 

Snapchat's My Eyes Only lets kids hide photos and videos behind a passcode, out of reach of parental monitoring apps. Using it could be an innocent, age-appropriate bid for privacy, but it could also signal trouble. Kids can use My Eyes Only to hide risky content, including nude images which can carry legal consequences, even for minors. 

To mitigate the risks, talk openly with your child about your concerns, set clear expectations for their behavior on Snapchat, and monitor their use with BrightCanary.

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