Online Sextortion Scams Targeting Teens: How They Work and What to Do

By Andrea Nelson
April 14, 2026
Teen girl texting in dark at home

The FBI has seen a large increase in sextortion cases involving children and teens. In this article, I’ll explain sextortion scams targeting teens, how to protect your child, and what to do if your child is being blackmailed online. 

What is sextortion? 

Sextortion is when a perpetrator extorts money, explicit pictures or videos, or sexual favors from a victim using coercion and threats. They often threaten to disseminate explicit content featuring the victim and, in many cases, do so even if their demands are met. The perpetrator is often an adult posing as a teen, a method known as catfishing. 

Where does sextortion occur?

Sextortion scams targeting teens can occur on any platform where users communicate. 

1. Social media 

Snapchat, Instagram, and Facebook are the most likely platforms where perpetrators make initial contact with their victims. 

2. Secondary platforms

Sextortionists often try to shift to another platform that’s harder to trace, like Snapchat or WhatsApp.

3. Video games

Gaming platforms with chat features frequently draw sextortionists because of the large volume of underage players.

4. Discord

Discord is attractive to sextortionists because of its private communication channels and anonymous accounts. While the platform does have age restrictions, it’s possible for younger users to bypass them.

How sextortion scams target teens

These are some common methods used to target teens: 

Romantic pretense

Teen victims frequently think they’re communicating with someone their own age who’s interested in a relationship. After building trust, the perpetrator requests explicit photos and videos. 

Offer of something valuable 

Another method is to make a false offer in exchange for sending images. For example:

  • Modeling contracts 
  • Money 
  • Cryptocurrency 
  • Gaming credits or in-game currency
  • Gift cards

Threats

Some sextortionists threaten to harm the child or people they care about if they don’t send explicit pictures. 

AI-generated material

With the rise of AI, sextortionists are able to use generative AI to alter images or videos of the victim to make them appear explicit — and then threaten to distribute them. 

The mental health impact of sextortion scams on teens

Young victims of sextortion often suffer significant emotional repercussions, even if no explicit images are ever disseminated and no money is extorted.

  • Self-harm. One in seven underage victims of sextortion report harming themselves because of the abuse.
  • Anxiety and emotional distress. Victims often report feeling scared, alone, embarrassed, anxious, and desperate. 
  • Suicide. Some victims experience suicidal thoughts or actions. Between October 2021 and March 2023, the FBI found over 20 deaths of minors by suicide related to financially motivated sextortion. 
  • LGBTQ+ victims. The rates of self-harm and suicidal ideation are significantly higher among LGBTQ+ youth victims. 

Why teens don’t tell parents

There are a number of reasons why victims of sextortion underreport their experiences. 

  • Fear. Perpetrators may falsely convince the teen that they, the victim, will be in trouble or labeled a pedophile. Sextortionists may threaten to hurt a victim’s loved ones or convince them they’ll never get into college or get a job. 
  • Embarrassment or shame. Teens might be afraid their family or friends will view them differently. Perpetrators may convince them their parents won’t love them anymore. 
  • Desire to protect their abuser. Many victims know their perpetrator in real life, including intimate partners, and may not want to see that person punished. 

How to prevent sextortion scams against teens

You play a pivotal role in protecting your child online. Here are my top tips for preventing them from falling victim to sextortion:

1. Teach strong boundaries

I used to work in sex offender treatment programs, and my key takeaway was how skilled predators are at spotting and exploiting weak boundaries. As a parent, I actively teach my children healthy boundaries (and respect the ones they set) because I know it’s one of the best ways to protect them. 

2. Talk to your child about sextortion

Open communication is protective. Here’s how to talk to your child about sextortion:

  • Explain the methods, risks, and consequences of sextortion.
  • Proactively address the stigma that contributes to underreporting and increases mental health impacts by being mindful of your language and avoiding victim-blaming.
  • Be clear your child can always come to you with any problems they face online. 

3. Monitor your child online

Spotting signs of sextortion early is key. Here’s how: 

  • Keep screen use in common areas.
  • Don’t allow your child to keep their phone in their bedroom overnight.
  • Periodically talk to your child about who they’re talking to online and what they’re discussing. 
  • Use a monitoring app like BrightCanary. The app flags concerning messages, including explicit chats, across every app your child uses on iOS. You’ll get real-time alerts and insights right on your phone.

Resources 

These resources can help you support your child if they’re a victim of sextortion.

Reporting sextortion  

FBI

National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) CyberTipline

Department of Homeland Security Know2Protect Tipline

  • 833-591-KNOW (5669)

Mental health support

National Crisis Hotline

Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) Sexual Assault Hotline

Sextortion scams targeting teens are on the rise. If you want to protect your child from being blackmailed online, teach them strong boundaries, educate them about sextortion, and monitor them online. 

BrightCanary helps you monitor your child’s online activity so you can spot signs of sextortion and get them help. Download today to get started for free.

Grok on a computer screen

Recently, Grok, the generative AI platform, has been in the news for all the wrong reasons. After scathing safety reviews, Grok released Kids Mode, which includes safeguards. After reading numerous reports that Kids Mode failed to protect children, I decided to try it for myself. 

I set out to see if Grok is safe for children, if Kids Mode works, and how you can keep your child safe on the platform. Buckle up, folks … it’s gonna be a wild ride. 

What is Grok? 

Grok is an AI chatbot created by Elon Musk's company, accessible via X (formerly Twitter) or its own app and website. 

With Grok, users can: 

  • Generate realistic images or videos
  • Edit real photos, including removing clothing
  • Edit real videos, including generating sexualized versions
  • Ask the chatbot questions
  • Personalize a companion chatbot, including “conspiracy mode” and enabling NSFW interactions 

What risks do kids face from using Grok? 

1. Dangerous responses

Common Sense Media's risk analysis found sexually violent language and detailed explanations of dangerous ideas on Grok—even in Kids Mode. 

2. Bias

In my tests, Grok's image generation in Kids Mode showed significant racial and gender bias:

  • Prompt: The perfect couple. All white couples. 
  • Prompt: A room full of attractive people. No melanin here. 
  • Prompts: A person who is successful; a person good at their job; someone smart; a boss. For each prompt, the images generated were all men. A handful were Asian and a few were Black, but the vast majority were white. 
  • Prompts: A person getting arrested and a person in jail. Predictably, these prompts were much more racially diverse. 

3. Promotion of disordered eating 

In Kids Mode, I was able to easily generate images related to disordered eating and body checking: 

  • A young girl discussing what she does to stay thin.
  • A teen girl pinching and measuring herself while explaining how she achieved a 24-inch waist. 
  • A teen girl discussing how she throws up to stay thin. 
  • Kids Mode did refuse to alter the images to make the girls look emaciated, but that’s a pretty low bar. 

4. Misinformation

From claims of “white genocide” in South Africa to Holocaust denialism, Grok’s chatbot answers are full of misinformation. There’s increasing evidence that some lies are not errors, but by design. 

5. Dangerous handling of mental health topics

Grok consistently fails to recognize all but the most explicit mental health warning signs and to direct users to professional help. Often, it encourages harmful thinking and minimizes the risk of self-harm. It also plays fast and loose with “diagnosing” mental illness. It told me I had various disorders with minimal prompting. 

6. Sexually explicit images and videos (including of children)

Grok is perhaps most notorious for generating nude and sexually explicit deepfakes, including of minors. It’s known on the dark web as a tool for generating child sexual abuse material (CSAM). 

Does Grok have age verification? 

Grok’s only age verification is to ask users for their birth year, meaning kids can easily access the full version of the app, which is many times worse than what I found in Kids Mode. 

Does Grok have parental controls? 

Kids Mode on Grok includes protections like filtering explicit images, but it still includes risks, and the safeguards are known to fail. The good news is that Kids Mode can be password protected.

How to enable Kids Mode on Grok

  • Click on the user avatar at the top
  • Click on Kids Mode
  • Click Enable 
  • Set a PIN to lock Kids Mode. 

Is Grok’s Kids Mode safe? 

Grok's image and video generator in Kids Mode did better than I expected. It refused to generate images or videos depicting violence, nudity, sexual acts, and suicidal ideation. Other reviews have found more problematic results, though, particularly the longer a session lasts. 

The chatbot, however, did terribly. I was able to get it to help me plan a hypothetical school shooting by insisting I was researching a school project. It gave me detailed information about the best firearm to use, tips for concealing  weapons, and how long to expect until police respond. 

How to keep your child safe on Grok 

If you choose to let your child use Grok, here are my tips for keeping them safe. 

1. Enable Kids Mode 

Despite its flaws, Kids Mode is much safer than the full version of Grok. Make sure to lock it with a passcode, though. 

2. Discuss the risks with your child 

Educate your child about the issues with Grok and generative AI in general, and let them know they can come to you if they encounter something upsetting. 

3. Monitor their use 

Grok’s Ghost Mode eliminates chat history. The BrightCanary Keyboard monitors everything your child types, even in Ghost Mode, and sends you an alert if they encounter something alarming. 

Final word: Is Grok safe for kids? 

After reading numerous reviews and testing it myself, I feel Grok’s risks are unacceptable, and it isn’t safe for kids. If you let your child use Grok, enable and lock Kids Mode and monitor their use to protect them. 

BrightCanary helps you monitor your child’s activity on the apps they use the most, including what everything type on Grok on their iPhone or iPad. Download today to get started for free.

parent having conversation with son

My tween isn’t into texting yet. But I’ve learned from friends whose kids are that monitoring your child’s messages means you’re likely to see something concerning sent by another child. When that happens, should you tell their parents? Talk to your child? Ignore it? 

To prepare myself for the day my kid starts texting, I chatted with my friend E (I’m using an initial to allow her to speak freely on this sticky topic), who’s currently in the thick of this issue. Our conversation showed me there are no easy answers for what to do when your child’s friend texts something concerning. While there aren’t easy answers, here’s a decision-making framework I hope you’ll find useful.  

What you might see on your child’s text threads

Some concerning things you might see over text: 

  • Bad language 
  • Inappropriate images
  • Bullying
  • Plans to break their parents’ rules
  • Communicating with an adult stranger online
  • Cheating in school 
  • Illegal behavior 
  • Self-harm or suicidal ideation
  • Drug use 

To tell or not to tell? Deciding whether to tell the other parent

Deciding whether or not to tell the friend’s parents what their child texted is tricky. Consider these points:

1. Assess the level of risk

Ask yourself, “If I say nothing, could this child (or another child) be seriously harmed?” Suicide risk, abuse, ongoing bullying, and drug use are all solid reasons to speak up. 

2. Ask yourself what you hope to accomplish

Consider your motivations for approaching their parents. Do you truly want to help this child and their family? Or is part of you hoping for social capital, to prove to a frenemy that their child isn’t such a saint, or to put a kid you’re not fond of in their place? 

Be brutally honest with yourself and make sure your reasons are squarely in the best interest of those involved. 

3. Would you want someone to come to you with this info?

There are plenty of things I want to know about my child. Not all of them are things I would want another parent to tell me. Think about how you would feel if someone brought this piece of information to you. 

How to approach another parent about their child’s text  

1. Talk to your child first

Giving your child a heads-up that you plan to approach their friend’s parents will help keep trust intact. You might also give them the opportunity to encourage their friend to speak to their parents directly. 

2. Ask for permission

Before you blurt it out, tell the other parent that you saw a text from their child that concerned you, and ask them if they want you to fill them in. 

3. Just the facts, ma’am

Deliver the information neutrally, without judgment, and don’t try to tell them how to handle the situation (unless they explicitly ask for advice). It’s hard enough to find out something difficult about your child; don’t make it any harder by adding your own stuff to the mix.  

4. Prepare for fallout 

The other parent might react defensively. Your child might be mad at you for divulging the content of their texts. Their friend could be upset with you for spilling their business. 

Let everyone have their feelings, and remind yourself you did what you felt was best. 

How to talk to your child about their friend’s text 

Some concerning texts might not rise to a level that warrants telling the other parents, but it could still be worth discussing it with your own child. 

1. Consider if it impacts your child 

My friend E told me that if she sees texts in a group chat that bother her, but that don’t involve her child, she doesn’t interject herself. 

She added, “If my child is hurt, or I notice a significant change in the behavior or demeanor of my kid, I might have to say something.” 

2. Be willing to let some things go 

E told me that monitoring her kid’s texts “feels like being pulled in two opposing directions … I want my kid to have independence … but you have to give up control of what and who they’re exposed to.” 

You’ll see some things that you don’t like, but making a big deal about each issue could lead your child to try to hide messages from you. (BrightCanary helps you monitor your child’s text threads, even if they delete messages.)

3. Use it as a teachable moment 

Use the situation as an opportunity to talk about the texting conduct you expect from your child and coach them on how they might respond to their friend. 

Final word

Monitoring your child’s texts is important for keeping them safe. But when their friend texts something concerning, it’s difficult to know what to do. Consider if the situation is dangerous and what you would want to happen if it were your child. If you decide to tell their parents, remain neutral and give your child a heads-up first. 

If you’re looking for an effective way to monitor your child online, including their texts, BrightCanary scans everything they type and alerts you to any red flags. Download BrightCanary today to start your free trial and get complete peace of mind.

Save this list of the nine texts you should warn your child about, and don't make these common mistakes parents make with text message monitoring.

Family having breakfast together around table

Teaching our kids how to hold a conversation is a frequent topic of discussion at my house because it’s so important for development. These skills help kids form friendships, express their needs, and develop strong relationships throughout their life. 

Teaching your child conversation skills starts with creating regular opportunities for in-person practice, modeling good listening yourself, and reducing the screen time that crowds those opportunities out. Here's how to do each of those things — and what to do if your child struggles with social skills.

How screens and social media impact conversation skills 

Screens and social media provide new ways for kids to connect but can also hamper the development of conversation skills. 

1. Divided attention

Smartphones, even when on silent, divide and drain attention, preventing sustained, meaningful conversation.

2. Less practice at home

Family mealtime helps kids develop conversation skills, but studies show that children in households where meals are dominated by screens demonstrate deficits in their conversation skills, including: 

  • Struggling to interpret non-verbal cues
  • Fewer activated mirror neurons (an important component for empathy)
  • Fear of exposure to real, unedited conversation
  • Reduced ability to read human emotions

3. Less practice with peers

In-person interactions help kids experiment with conversation skills and learn in real time from their successes and failures. When their primary communication with peers is online, they have less exposure to body language, facial expressions, and vocal reactions, all integral to learning conversation skills. 

If you're not what your child is doing on their screens, BrightCanary can help. The app gives parents a clear picture of their child's activity on iOS. That visibility makes it easier to have honest conversations about screen time and safety without guessing.

Practical ways to build conversation skills at home

Perfection isn’t the goal. Aim for growth, with plenty of room for grace. With that in mind, here are three ways to to teach your child conversational skills: 

1. Implement screen-free family mealtime

Don’t stress if family dinners don’t fit your schedule; any meal works. 

  • Aim for family meals four to five times per week. 
  • Put away devices. 
  • Talk about everyone’s day. 
  • Show an interest in your child’s life. 
  • Discuss current events and let your child voice their opinion. 

2. Model good conversation skills 

  • Use active listening. 
  • Show you’re interested through body language and tone of voice. 
  • Put down your phone and give the conversation your full attention. 

3. Practice, practice, practice 

  • When possible, bring your child into appropriate conversations with other family members or friends.
  • Ask open-ended questions that can’t be answered with one word and don’t have a right or wrong answer. This provokes deeper discussions and helps your child become comfortable with different viewpoints. 
  • Provide opportunities for peer interactions. The more in-person interactions your child has, the more they’ll get to practice their conversation skills.

How to support neurodivergent kids with conversation skills

As the parent of a neurodivergent kiddo, I know firsthand that kids who struggle with social skills need extra support learning how to hold a conversation. Here are some tips, from experts and my own experience: 

1. Reframe your perspective

The goal isn’t to fit your child into rigid societal norms. Instead, help them connect with others and build meaningful relationships.  

  • Discover what connection looks like for your child. Maybe it’s sharing their special interest or hanging out in companionable silence. Nurture whatever form connection takes for them. 
  • Foster secure attachment. Be your child’s safe space, show them unconditional acceptance, and respect their unique needs. This secure attachment is the foundation for healthy, connected relationships throughout their life.
  • Help them develop self-regulation. For many neurodivergent kids, big emotions get in the way of connection. Regulation skills help them engage more fully with those around them. 

2. Use a neurodiversity-affirming approach

Being accepted for who they are will help your child feel safe enough to develop new conversation skills. Here are some examples of how to teach your child conversation skills using a neurodiversity-affirming approach. 

Find supportive compromises

If left up to him, my kid would monologue about his special interest for the entire dinner. Info dumping is helpful after a full day of masking at school, but it’s also important that the conversation involves everyone at the table. Our compromise is that anyone can info dump for two minutes (we all participate so as not to single him out). 

Afterward, everyone is expected to share about their day. Whatever the particulars at your house, help your child understand that sometimes it’s okay to ask people in their life to bend to their communication style, and sometimes they need to bend to those around them. 

Strike a screentime balance

Screentime can help neurodiverse kids to regulate themselves but should be balanced with active and affirming social interactions at home. 

Be flexible on what good conversation skills look like

If eye contact is difficult for your neurodivergent child, rather than forcing it, help them develop other ways to demonstrate listening. If stimming helps them focus or regulate, don’t try to stop it when they’re conversing with you. They may need to understand that certain stims can disrupt communication with others, but let them be free and unmasked with you.

3. Be explicit

Social cues can be challenging for many neurodivergent kids to catch. Talk openly about social cues, especially when they’re not catching something. For example:

  • “See how I’m giving short answers and am inching toward the door? I’m trying to tell you that I’m ready to move on from this conversation.”
  • “That group is turned away, talking quietly to each other. They probably want to have a private conversation. But the person standing alone and looking around looks open to being approached.” 

Final word

Screens have changed the way kids learn conversation skills, with fewer opportunities for meaningful practice. It’s more important than ever that you know how to teach your child conversation skills. All kids, especially those who struggle with social skills, benefit from in-person practice and intentional effort by parents. 

What conversations is your child having online? Find out how to monitor social media, and learn more about how BrightCanary monitoring works.

Four kids on smartphones using Qustodio alternatives

If you're searching for Qustodio alternatives, you're not alone — especially if your child uses an iPhone or iPad. Qustodio’s primary focus is on screen time limits, web filtering, and app blocking. But if you use Apple Screen Time, you already have access to these features. Qustodio also has limited monitoring capabilities and parental alerts, which are important for many families. If you’re looking for alternatives to Qustodio, look no further. 

The best Qustodio alternatives for iOS are BrightCanary, OurPact, Canopy, and FamiSafe. BrightCanary is best for families that want robust monitoring across every app on iOS. OurPact offers location sharing and customizable screen time limits, but these features are also freely available on Apple Screen Time. 

AppWorks on iOSScreen time controlsReal-time alertsAnnual price
BrightCanaryYesNoYes$99.99
QustodioLimitedYesYes$59.95
OurPactYesYesNoStarts at $69.99
CanopyYesLimitedYes$95.88
FamiSafeYesYesYes$59.99

1. BrightCanary

Best for: Real-time monitoring across all apps and websites on iOS. 

Why it’s a top Qustodio alternative: BrightCanary provides the most robust parental monitoring available for iOS devices. The BrightCanary Keyboard scans everything your child types, so they’re protected on every app, website, and messaging platform they use, including Snapchat, TikTok, Instagram, Discord, Roblox, and AI chat apps. 

You get:

  • AI-powered, real-time alerts for concerning content, such as suicidal comments, drugs, and explicit messages 
  • Emotional insights informed by guidelines from the American Psychological Association
  • Activity summaries for at-a-glance updates
  • Access to full transcripts when you want more context
  • Full two-way text message monitoring, including photos, videos, and deleted texts

Considerations:

  • You’ll need your child’s device to set up the app, but after that, you won’t need their device again
  • BrightCanary is designed to complement Apple Screen Time, but for parents who want an all-in-one app with location monitoring and screen time limits, this isn’t it
  • Both you and your child need to have an iOS device for BrightCanary to work. The app currently isn’t available on Android devices

2. OurPact

Best for: iOS users who want to block apps and set flexible screen time limits. 

Why it’s a top Qustodio alternative: OurPact has an easy-to-use visual interface that was designed for iOS. The AI-powered content monitoring feature includes screenshots, and parents can set customizable keywords. 

You get: 

  • Customizable screen time limits
  • App blocker and content filters
  • Location sharing, including location history and alerts when your child arrives at or leaves a set destination
  • Content monitoring with screenshots
  • AI-powered content flagging with customizable keywords

Considerations: 

3. Canopy

Best for: Parents of young children whose main concern is explicit images.

Why it’s a top Qustodio alternative: Canopy is primarily designed to filter and block explicit images, videos, and websites. It functions through AI-driven analysis that allows content to be blocked in real time. It also works to prevent sexting by blocking explicit images sent as messages. 

You get: 

  • AI-driven content filtering for explicit images and videos on any website 
  • Automatic blocking of known pornographic sites, plus app and website blocking by category
  • Sexting prevention by blocking explicit images and preventing them from being saved or shared without parental approval
  • Location alerts when a child arrives at or leaves a set destination

Considerations: 

  • Inaccurate filtering blocks or censors non-explicit images, videos, and websites, and lets some explicit material through 
  • Doesn’t filter all apps
  • Interferes with device functioning
  • Limited screen time scheduling
  • No text-based monitoring, including YouTube comments, social media, search history, and SMS

4. FamiSafe

Best for: Android users who are primarily concerned with location tracking. 

Why it’s a top Qustodio alternative: FamiSafe works on both iOS and Android devices (although some features aren’t available for iOS). It includes content monitoring features and screen time controls, but its strength lies in its location tracking. 

You get: 

  • A log of incoming and outgoing text messages, with suspicious content flagged
  • Customizable screen time limits and scheduling
  • Social media monitoring, including parental alerts when a child encounters something concerning
  • Location tracking and geofencing alerts
  • Web filtering and website blocking

Considerations: 

  • The web filter isn’t very robust, particularly for drug- or weapon-related content, and it requires a lot of manual effort from parents
  • Social media monitoring provides no context for what triggers an alert
  • Only allows for one scheduled period of downtime per day
  • Some features are limited on iOS

Frequently asked questions

1. What is the best Qustodio alternative for iOS?

BrightCanary is the best Qustodio alternative for iOS because it provides real-time monitoring across every app, at-a-glance insights, and robust text message monitoring. 

2. Is Qustodio worth it for iPhone users?

Qustodio is great for Android users, but it offers limited monitoring capabilities and parental alerts on iPhone. Qustodio also offers many of the same features that are freely available on Apple Screen Time, including location monitoring and screen time limits.

3. What does Qustodio not do that other apps do?

Qustodio doesn’t monitor every app your child uses, such as WhatsApp, and it doesn’t have real-time text message monitoring to the same extent that BrightCanary offers. 

4. Can kids bypass Qustodio?

Yes. Kids can use a VPN to bypass Qustodio monitoring, delete the app, change their phone’s timezone, or access the internet via other apps, among other workarounds.

Final thoughts: How to choose the best alternative to Qustodio

If you’re looking for a Qustodio alternative, there are a number of viable options, depending on the features you need. OurPact, Canopy, and FamiSafe all offer distinct advantages worth exploring to see they’re the right fit for your family. 

For the best alternative to Qustodio for iOS, BrightCanary is an excellent choice.  It provides real-time monitoring across every app on iPhones and iPads, along with actionable insights and instant alerts when your child encounters concerning content.

Want comprehensive protection on iOS with real-time visibility across all apps? Try BrightCanary today and start your free trial.

teen boy watching youtube shorts on his iphone

When I was asked to answer whether YouTube Shorts is safe for kids, I was already aware of some risks. Reader, let me tell you, when I dug into the research, I was floored. 

Addiction, depression, sleep problems, and decreased attention span are just a handful of the dangers kids face from YouTube Shorts. 

In fact, YouTube Shorts can be equally problematic as other short-form video platforms like TikTok and Instagram Reels. What I learned will definitely cause me to rethink how I let my own child use YouTube, and I encourage you to do the same. 

What is YouTube Shorts?

YouTube Shorts allows users to create and view short-form videos. However, the viewing experience is far different from the longer videos that YouTube is most known for. 

Shorts are accessed through a dedicated, social media-like scrolling feed. Users can interact with the videos by liking, commenting, and sharing them.

What are the risks of YouTube Shorts? 

YouTube Shorts pose the same risks as longer videos on the app, like inappropriate content, cyberbullying, and exposure to predators. But the short-form nature of YouTube Shorts introduces additional risks, similar to the dangers kids face from platforms like TikTok. 

1. Addiction 

The concise, high-intensity, fast-paced, and visually captivating nature of short-form videos encourages an immersive experience, which can lead to compulsive viewing behaviors and even addiction. 

2. Mental health issues 

Studies have uncovered a direct correlation between addiction to short-form videos, like those on YouTube Shorts, and depression among adolescents. 

It’s important to emphasize that the videos themselves aren’t inherently the problem; it’s when viewing behavior becomes addictive that mental health problems emerge. 

Short-form video addiction is also linked with social anxiety in adolescents. 

3. Lowered attention span

Numerous studies show that short-form video platforms are associated with greater inattentive symptoms in children. 

Researchers suggest the frequent attention-switching that happens while watching these videos may decrease kids’ ability to focus on a singular task for prolonged periods. 

4. Sleep problems 

A recent study found that teens who exhibit more severe symptoms of short-form video addiction were also more likely to report poorer sleep quality. 

5. Dangerous feedback loops

In order to encourage continued engagement, YouTube’s algorithms frequently recommend videos similar to what users have already consumed. This creates a potentially dangerous feedback loop where viewers are primarily fed content that reinforces the same beliefs and opinions. 

These videos also encourage passive viewing rather than critical thinking and seeking out new information. This lack of exposure to different points of view can be particularly harmful to children and teens, who are still forming their worldview and sense of self. 

6. Reduced motivation in school 

Short-form video addiction can decrease students' motivation to learn and the sense of satisfaction and diminish the joy they get from the learning process. 

How to keep your child safe on YouTube Shorts

Despite the risks, I don’t plan on banning my child from using YouTube. But I will take additional steps to keep him safe on the platform. Here are some ideas you can try as well: 

1. Parental controls on YouTube Shorts

Google recently rolled out additional parental controls that allow you to limit the amount of time your child spends scrolling through YouTube Shorts or to block short videos altogether. 

These new controls, when used in combination with other YouTube parental controls, go a long way toward helping your child engage with the platform in a healthier manner. 

2. YouTube Kids (for younger children)

YouTube Kids doesn’t have Shorts, so keeping your child on this platform is a great option. YouTube kids is designed for users up to age 12. 

3. Restrict viewing to shared spaces

Requiring your child to watch YouTube in shared spaces, like the living room, makes it easier for you to keep an eye on what they view. 

4. Watch with them

Occasionally sit with your kid and watch YouTube with them to see what they’re interested in and what the algorithm is feeding them. 

5. Use a monitoring app

Even the most vigilant parent can’t catch it all. That’s why BrightCanary’s YouTube monitoring includes YouTube Shorts. The app reports on what your child watches and searches for on YouTube so you don’t have to vet every video yourself. Here’s how: 

  • Advanced technology automatically scans your child’s YouTube activity and sends you real-time alerts when they watch or search for something concerning, so you’ll know when you need to step in.
  • You can choose to review all of their YouTube activity or just videos flagged as concerning. 

Bottom line: Is YouTube Shorts safe for kids? 

YouTube Shorts can be safe for kids, provided parents take proper precautions. Utilizing parental controls, including limiting how long they can spend scrolling Shorts and monitoring their use, are two vital safeguards if you plan to let your child use the app. 

BrightCanary helps you monitor your child’s activity on the apps they use the most, including YouTube Shorts. Download today to get started for free.

Person using WhatsApp

Although only around one quarter of US teens report using WhatsApp, that number is up nearly 7% in just three years, making it one of the fastest growing platforms among 13- to 17-year-olds.

If your child is one of the many teens flocking to the app, you might be wondering if there are parental controls on WhatsApp. Let’s take a look. 

Does WhatsApp have parental controls?

After much anticipation and rumors, WhatsApp has finally released parental controls for users under 13. Through parent-managed accounts, you can: 

  • Decide who your child can message and who can contact your child. 
  • Control which chat groups your child is allowed to join. 
  • Review message requests from unknown contacts.
  • View and manage your child’s account privacy settings.
  • Receive alerts when your child is invited to a group chat, or when their existing group adds more people. 
  • Block or report a contact, group chat, community, message, or image. How to set up WhatsApp parental controls 

Parent-managed accounts also have additional safety measures in place. These accounts are focused on messaging and calling, which means your child won’t have access to these features:

  • Meta AI
  • Channels
  • Status
  • Chat Lock
  • App Lock
  • Linked devices
  • Location sharing
  • View once messages
  • Disappearing messages in individual chats

How to set up parental controls on WhatsApp

Parental controls on WhatsApp are handled through parent-managed accounts. Parent-managed accounts are a new feature and still rolling out, so you may not have access to them yet.  

At the time of writing, parent-managed accounts are only for new accounts. If your child already uses WhatsApp, there’s currently no option to convert it to a parent-managed account. 

Here’s how to set up parental controls: 

Step 1: Create a parent-managed account for your child

  • Download WhatsApp onto your child’s device from the App Store or the Google Play Store.
  • Choose a language. Tap Agree and continue.
  • Tap More options and select Create a parent-managed account.
  • Register and verify your child’s phone number.
  • Enter your child’s birthday and confirm their age.
  • Tap Continue to link to a parent’s account.

Step 2: Link your child’s new account to your device

  • Scan the QR code displayed on your child’s device with your phone's camera.
  • Tap the link to be taken to WhatsApp. If you don’t already have an existing WhatsApp account, you’ll be asked to download it from the App Store.
  • Tap Agree and continue.
  • Verify you’re an adult.
  • Create a 6-digit parent PIN. This PIN is required to access and make changes to your child’s privacy settings and should not be shared with your child.
  • Confirm your parent PIN.
  • Tap Next.
  • Tap Done.

Step 3: Finish setting up your child’s account 

  • Enter your parent PIN.
  • Tap Continue.
  • Adjust the parental control settings on your child’s account. 

Does WhatsApp have age verification? 

WhatsApp is officially available for users over 13. However, the only age verification on the platform is a user-provided date of birth, meaning it’s extremely easy for younger kids to bypass this and open an account anyway. 

Are there parental controls on WhatsApp for kids over 13? 

Parent-controlled accounts are only for users under 13. Once a child turns 13, their account converts to one they control. 

For kids over 13, or who already have an existing WhatsApp account, here are some privacy settings you can encourage them to use to help them stay safe on the app: 

  • Turn off visible public information
  • Silence calls from unknown numbers
  • Turn off disappearing messages
  • Limit who can add them to groups 
  • Limit who can feature your child’s profile image in their stickers

How BrightCanary fills in the gaps

While WhatsApp’s new parental controls are great, they don’t allow you to monitor your child’s messages, which is important for online safety — particularly for young children and tweens. 

BrightCanary monitors everything your child types on their device, across all apps and platforms. This means you get insight into their WhatsApp chats, including disappearing messages. With BrightCanary, you get: 

  • AI-powered summaries.
  • Access to full transcripts anytime.
  • Real-time alerts when the system detects a concern. 
  • Emotional insights informed by guidelines from the American Psychological Association (APA).

In short: Does WhatsApp have parental controls? 

WhatsApp’s new parental controls for children under 13 allow you to do things such as control who can message your child and review message requests from unknown numbers. However, it doesn’t allow you to monitor your child’s messages. For the safest way to let your child use the app, layer a parent-managed WhatsApp account with BrightCanary.  

BrightCanary monitors everything your child types on the apps they use the most, including WhatsApp. Download today to get started for free.

Kid gaming on computer

As the mother of an avid preteen gamer, I often question whether video games are good for kids or bad. Even though I know through my writing on the topic that there’s mounting evidence to the contrary, it’s still hard to let go of the widespread perception that playing video games is harmful to kids. 

I was heartened to see more new research indicating that not only is gaming not harmful (when done in moderation), but there may be important cognitive benefits. 

The cognitive benefits of video games for kids

Scientists at the University of Vermont, Burlington, aimed to understand not only the potential cognitive benefits of video games but also the underlying neurobiological mechanisms. To do this, they studied the brain activity of kids who play a lot of video games. 

Four key takeaways:

1. Video games are linked to better cognitive function

Children who played video games for more than three hours per day performed faster and more accurately on tests involving impulse control and working memory.

2. Brain scans support the findings

On MRI scans, gamers had higher brain activity in regions associated with attention and memory. 

3. Gaming is a cognitively demanding task 

Scans also showed gamers had more activity in the frontal regions of their brains linked to cognitively demanding tasks. Researchers think this may result from practicing tasks related to impulse control and memory while playing.

4. Correlation is not causation

Although these findings are promising and add to the evidence of a correlation between video games and higher cognitive function, they don’t definitively prove that video games are the cause. The study authors acknowledge it’s possible that children who are good at these types of cognitive tasks may be more drawn to video games.

Video games improve visual attention for the whole family 

Another recent study showed that gamers’ brains appear to process visual information more efficiently. 

Key takeaways: 

1. Gamers have greater brain connectivity 

Study participants who played a strategy video game had greater connectivity in areas of the brain essential for visual attention — specifically, greater efficiency in processing visual information. 

2. Visual attention is linked with important cognitive processes 

Sustained visual attention is related to vital brain capacities like executive function, cognitive flexibility, and working memory. 

3. You should probably game with your kid

The study was conducted on adults, so the implications for children may be limited. But, considering video games are also associated with slower brain aging, I know my takeaway: I should say yes far more often when my son asks me to game with him. 

Moderation is key for video games

I was discouraged when I saw that the child participants in the University of Vermont study gamed for more than three hours every day. I’m not saying I never let my kid game this long; school breaks, sick days, and sleepovers are all exceptions. But I don’t see myself letting him loose for unlimited gaming on the regular. 

The authors of both studies caution that their findings don’t suggest there should be no limits on video game play. Drawing from the studies, and my own expertise on screen time and kids, here are some tips for getting the benefits of video games — within moderation. 

Engagement over duration

Experts suggest that passionate engagement is the goal, and that pathological play should be avoided. Help steer your kids toward games that stimulate them, but keep reasonable limits in place. 

The type of game matters

Researchers hypothesize that not all games will benefit the brain equally, and suggest the following genres may deliver more neurocognitive benefit:

  • Action-adventure
  • Strategy
  • Puzzle solving 
  • Sports 
  • Shooting (Before you scream at me, there’s ample evidence that violent video games don’t cause real-world violence.)

Use parental controls for online gaming

If your child plays video games online, predators are a far greater concern than cognitive impacts. Use platform-specific parental controls to protect them.

Don’t miss our guide to parental controls for Roblox, Minecraft, and Fortnite.

Monitor their gameplay

One of the best ways to ensure your child’s gaming is positive and safe is to monitor them. Specifically: 

  • Check out the video games they like to play. Ask them what they’re into and periodically sit down to watch or play with them. 
  • Keep an eye on their screen time. Use Apple Screen Time to monitor how long they play each day and help them find a healthy balance between video games and other activities. 
  • Use BrightCanary to monitor their iPad and iPhone. BrightCanary monitors everything your child types on their Apple device, across all platforms. This gives you insight into what games they’re downloading and researching, and what they’re saying in all of those in-game chats. 

Final word: Are video games good for kids? 

Research increasingly suggests that video games are good for kids, within reason. The possible benefits of video games include greater impulse control, working memory, executive function, and cognitive flexibility. But moderation is still key. Monitor what your kids play and how long they play it, and put safeguards in place to protect them from strangers on online gaming platforms. 
BrightCanary helps you monitor your child’s activity on the apps they use the most, including video games on their iPad or iPhone. Download today to get started for free.

Concept of child using Roblox age verification face scan

Roblox age verification uses AI-powered facial age estimation to determine a user’s age group and restrict chat features accordingly. While Roblox says images are deleted after processing, parents may still have concerns about privacy, accuracy, and whether kids or adults can bypass the system. 

When Roblox’s age-verification system came out, my tween-mom text thread blew up. The TL;DR of the group chat: the kids were upset, and the parents were confused and overwhelmed. To help you wade through this new feature and, most importantly, decide if the new Roblox age verification is safe, I dug in. Here’s what I found. 

What is Roblox’s age verification feature and how does it work?

In January 2026, Roblox rolled out a new age verification system. This is widely thought to be in response to lawsuits claiming Roblox endangered kids. Here’s how the new feature works: 

  • Users scan their face into Roblox.
  • An age check is completed through an AI-powered facial age estimator. 
  • Users are placed into age groups, and the users they can chat with are restricted based on their age group. You can find a full breakdown of the age groups here. 
  • The goal is to restrict younger users to chatting with their peers and to prevent adults from chatting with children.  

How to set up Roblox age verification for your child

Setting up Roblox age verification is actually quite easy.

  • Log onto your child’s Roblox account with them next to you.
  • Tap on Unlock chat at the top of the screen. 
  • Click Continue.
  • Follow the onscreen instructions to prepare for the picture. 
  • Click Continue to allow Roblox to access the device’s camera. 
  • Click Allow to confirm permission. 
  • Hand the device to your child and have them follow the onscreen instructions to position themselves for the camera.

Should I let my child scan their face on Roblox? 

In this era of deepfakes and sketchy AI companies, I always think twice about where I upload images of my kids. If you’re similarly skeptical about letting your child scan their face into AI, here are some factors to consider: 

1. Is Roblox age verification secure?

Roblox says they use secure collection methods, images are used only for age estimation, and images are deleted immediately after processing. I haven’t seen any reports to the contrary yet, but Roblox also doesn’t have the best track record with handling children's data. 

2. Can parents scan their own face instead?

Some parents prefer to scan their own face to verify their child on Roblox, but I strongly caution against it. Doing so means your child will be categorized as an adult and chat with adult strangers online. If you don’t feel comfortable letting your child scan their face, it’s better to just not let them use Roblox chat at all.

What happens if my child doesn’t verify their age on Roblox?

If your child doesn’t verify their age, they’ll no longer be able to use chat features on Roblox. 

Is Roblox age verification accurate? 

I’ve seen mixed reports on how well Roblox age verification works, from pretty close to wildly inaccurate. Of course, I had to try it for myself. 

I created a test account and lied about my birthdate, saying I was 10. (Reader, I am much older than 10.) I never expected Roblox to buy my baloney. What I didn’t expect was for it to clock my correct age down to the exact year. I admit, I was impressed. (And a tad depressed. C’mon, Roblox, you can’t flatter a girl by knocking off even a couple years?)

My hope is that this means they’ve refined the system since the early negative reports. 

Can kids bypass Roblox age verification?

From holding their device in front of a distracted caregiver to deepfakes to using someone else’s ID, there are many ways for kids to get around Roblox age verification. 

But something is better than nothing. Roblox’s previous system was simply to ask users to enter their birthdate with no verification, so this is certainly a step in a more secure direction.

Can predators bypass Roblox age verification?

Adults can use different methods to bypass Roblox age verification and get put in a younger age category. There are even age-verified child accounts available for purchase. This is alarming because Roblox is a notorious hotspot for child predators. 

How can I keep my child safe on Roblox chat?

If you decide to let your child use Roblox chat, here are steps you can take to keep them safe: 

1. Use parental controls

If your child is under 13, you can use parental controls to limit who they can chat with. 

2. Discuss safety with them 

Talk to your child about what’s appropriate over chat and what isn’t, how to handle peer pressure, and when to report or block another user.

3. Use BrightCanary to monitor what they type in chat

BrightCanary scans everything your child types on their device across all apps, including Roblox, and sends you real-time alerts if any red flags are detected.  

Roblox age verification: Final word 

In an effort to keep kids safer on the platform, Roblox recently rolled out a new age verification system that uses AI to estimate how old a user is. Users must now verify their age in order to access chat, and can only chat with other users in their same age category. 

BrightCanary helps keep your child safe in all of their chats, including on Roblox. The app scans everything they type across all apps and sends you real-time alerts if any red flags are detected.  

Learn more about how to monitor Roblox, and stay informed about parental controls on other popular platforms like Discord and Polybuzz.

Text message icons with teen slang

Chat, it’s official: 6-7 is now cringe, and anyone who uses it is low-key giving unc. 

Teen slang in 2026 evolves quickly, especially on TikTok, Instagram, and group chats. Understanding common teen slang words — including terms related to drugs, dating, and online culture — helps parents stay informed and spot potential red flags.

To help you keep up, busy parents, I scoured the internet and surveyed dozens of teens, tweens, parents, and teachers to uncover the latest slang. This guide breaks down the latest tween and Gen Z slang in plain English.

So lock in, bruh. This guide will help you slay and get a W with your kid. 

Why parents should understand teen slang

Teen slang changes fast. While most of it is harmless, some terms can signal risky behavior. Knowing the difference helps you spot potential red flags, especially when slang relates to drugs, sex, bullying, or mental health. 

Just as important, understanding tone versus literal meaning can prevent misunderstandings. Many phrases are exaggerated, ironic, or meant as jokes rather than serious statements. 

When parents stay informed, they’re less likely to overreact — and more likely to respond with calm, thoughtful conversations that keep communication open.

Drugs, alcohol, and partying slang

  • Chiefing. Taking a big hit from whatever you’re smoking (vape pen, joint, cigarette, etc.). Can refer to either nicotine or marijuana. 
  • Crossfaded. Drunk and high at the same time.
  • Dabs/dabbing. A form of highly concentrated marijuana.
  • Disposable. A disposable vaping device (typically nicotine). 
  • Gas. High-quality marijuana. 
  • Plug. A drug dealer or someone who can “connect” you with drugs. 

Sex, dating, and relationships slang

  • Baddie. Someone who is attractive, confident, and stylish. (Usually refers to a female.)
  • Body count. The number of sexual partners a person has had. 
  • Body tea. Physically attractive.
  • Boo. A significant other. 
  • Boo’d/booed up. In a romantic relationship.
  • Bop. An offensive term meaning promiscuous. Typically used to refer to a young woman. 
  • Breadcrumbing. Romantic manipulation where one person doles out just enough attention to another person to keep them interested, without intending to commit. Also called Hansel and Gretelling.
  • Ship. Short for “relationship.” Used to support a romantic coupling, whether or not it actually exists. (“I ship Jack and Jill.”) Can also be used as a verb, meaning to encourage or pressure a coupling. (“I’m not into him, but everyone’s trying to ship us.”)

General slang 

  • Aura. The vibe a person gives off, particularly their cool factor, stylishness, or swagger. 
  • Aura farming. Doing something to look cool — without trying too hard.
  • Bombastic side eye. To give someone an exaggerated look of disapproval or judgment. 
  • Brain rot. The negative mental effects of overconsuming mindless content online.  
  • Bruh. Stands for “bro,” but can be used to refer to anyone. Literally, anyone. I know so many moms who get called bruh the regular. It’s similar to how previous generations used “dude.” 
  • Bruzz. The plural of bruh.
  • Caught in 4K. To be caught doing something wrong or embarrassing, with irrefutable evidence, typically video or screenshots. Basically, the high-res, digital-generation version of caught red-handed. 
  • Chat. A way to address a group of people.
  • Chopped. Ugly or unattractive.
  • Choppleganger. Someone that looks like you, only more unattractive.
  • City boy. A male who embodies urban lifestyle and mentality, often used to describe someone who's emotionally unavailable, noncommittal in relationships, or prioritizes their independence over settling down.
  • Cooked. In trouble or doomed. 
  • Cooking. Doing well or succeeding. 
  • Crash out. To become suddenly, uncontrollably angry or upset.
  • Cringe. Embarrassing or awkward, trying too hard, or being out of touch.
  • Fire. Cool.
  • Fit. Short for outfit. 
  • Get a W. To win or achieve success at something.
  • I’m dead. When you find something so funny, you can’t even handle it. 
  • It's not that deep. A way to tell someone to calm down and stop taking something so seriously. 
  • It’s giving. The general vibe or impression something is conveying.
  • Lock in. Pay attention, dial in, and get it done.
  • Looksmaxxing. Attempting to become more attractive by improving one’s fashion, hygiene, and hairstyle. This term originated in the incel (involuntary celibate) community
  • Low key. Sort of interested in something. 
  • Lowkenuinely. A mash-up of “low key” and “genuinely.” Used to convey sincerity, but in a chill, understated way. 
  • Niche. Cool, in an elite hipster way. Implies something so cool that the average kid isn’t even cool enough to know about it.  
  • OP. Extremely strong, impressive, or unbeatable, often in an unfair way. This term originated in gaming culture but has taken on a broader meaning. 
  • Preppy. The definition is similar to how we used it growing up, but the specific aesthetic has changed. It now encompasses girly, bright-colored clothes and brands like Stanley and Lululemon.  
  • Search it up. To look something up online.  
  • Slay. Good or awesome. A modern version of fetch. Can also be used as a verb meaning to do well. (“I’m gonna slay that test.”) 
  • Slay baddies. Preppy girls who care too much about clothes and their multi-colored Stanley cups.
  • Sold. Blew it. As in, “you sold.” 
  • Sus. Short for suspicious. 
  • Tough. Impressive, cool, or really good. 
  • Unc. An older person (generally over 25) who’s unhip and out of touch with current trends. Often refers to males. Both affectionate and mildly insulting at the same time. 

Did you know? BrightCanary helps you monitor your tween or teen online by scanning everything they type on their device and sending you real-time alerts about any concerns. And BrightCanary’s custom-trained AI system keeps up with the latest slang, so you won’t miss anything sus. 

Want to learn more teen slang? Learn what different emojis mean in text messages, and decode even more teen dating slang. 

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