How Teens Find Porn Online (and What Parents Can Do About It)

By Andrea Nelson
April 3, 2025
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It will probably come as no shock that the majority of teens access pornography online. But what might surprise you is that teens aren’t just using Pornhub and incognito windows — they’re finding porn on social media, Spotify, X (formerly Twitter), and other unexpected places. 

Read on to learn the many crafty ways teens seek out adult content and what parents can do about it. 

Where are teens finding porn online? 

From music apps to social media, here are some of the surprising ways your teen could find explicit content online.

Social media search features

Teens can locate pornographic content through the search feature on social media apps like Instagram and Snapchat. Despite content policies that prohibit explicit material, creators have sneaky ways of getting around filters. This includes: 

  • Alternate spellings like “p0rn” and “seggs” 
  • Emojis like 🍆 and 💦    

X (formerly Twitter)

X is probably the last place you’d expect to find your teen — and that’s kind of the point. It’s not an app that’s popular with Gen Z, so it’s not on most parents’ radars when it comes to setting parental controls. 

Also, users don’t need to sign up for an account or download the app to use X, so kids can access it anonymously through their web browser. On X, teens don’t even need to use secret hashtag codes to find porn. X recently updated its policies to allow “consensually produced and distributed adult nudity or sexual behavior.”

Given that X is a text-based platform, pornographic content looks a little different. Some of the forms it might take include: 

  • Still images from videos
  • Animated GIFs
  • Short video clips 
  • Graphic descriptions of sexual acts
  • Links to external porn sites 

Music streaming services 

Teens can find porn on most music streaming platforms. (Spotify’s porn problem has made headlines.) Here’s how pornographic content may show up on these apps: 

  • User-uploaded images on playlists. 
  • Audio, such as readings of erotica or sexually arousing sounds. 
  • Videos hidden inside search results for famous artists.
  • Podcast uploads that are able to bypass the app’s content policies and users’ explicit content filters. 

Reddit

Reddit is another surprising hub for porn. Reddit has scores of discussion boards — known as subreddits — dedicated solely to pornographic content. Content labeled NSFW (not safe for work) indicates explicit material. Although some explicit subreddits have an age verification in place, it’s easy for teens to bypass the filter and fib about their age.

How to stop kids from accessing adult content

Curiosity about sex and sexual relationships are developmentally appropriate for teens. However, pornography can set unrealistic expectations and negatively impact attitudes about sex. So, parents need to be proactive in talking to their kids about the problems with porn.

Here are some steps you can take to protect your teen from online porn:

Talk to your child about sex and relationships

When you talk to your child about sensitive topics like sex, relationships, and drug and alcohol use, include porn in your discussions

Discuss how it can give false, and sometimes dangerous, impressions about real-life sexual experiences. Be sure to talk about consent and the fact that porn often doesn’t model this in a healthy way.

If you’ve already discovered that your child is accessing porn, here are some tips for handling the situation

Set up parental controls 

Take advantage of parental controls to limit your child’s ability to access certain websites and explicit content. This should be done on devices, individual apps such as Instagram, and internet browsers.

Use a child safety app

BrightCanary is a monitoring service that uses advanced technology to analyze what your child messages, searches, and sends on all the apps they use on Apple devices. If your child sends explicit messages or searches for inappropriate material, BrightCanary will let you know with real-time concerning content alerts. There's even an option to monitor the images and videos they receive via texts.

Final word 

Teens are finding porn online in many unexpected ways, including X, Reddit, and Spotify. Parents can take steps to prevent their teen from viewing age-inappropriate content, from talking openly about the risks of porn to using a monitoring app to supervise their child’s activity.

BrightCanary can help you monitor your child online. The app’s advanced technology scans what they send and search, including Google and social media, and alerts you when something concerning comes up. Download the app and get started for free today.

teen girl looking at mom

Parenting myths have a way of persisting, especially when it comes to raising kids in today’s tech-driven world. Some of those myths include the belief that all screen time is bad for kids and that a child is safe online as long as they don’t use social media. Breaking these misconceptions is a vital step toward keeping your child safe and healthy online.

Here are 7 myths of the most common digital parenting myths — and what you should know instead. 

Myth #1: If my child isn’t on social media, they’re safe online. 

False. Social media poses some of the biggest risks to kids. But there are plenty of other places they may run into trouble online, such as inappropriate content on YouTube, online predators in forums, and cyberbullying in toxic group threads.

Myth #2: Parental controls are enough to protect my child online.

False. Parental controls are fantastic tools that can limit your child’s exposure to things you don’t want them to easily access. But they aren’t foolproof. They work best as part of a broader strategy that includes open communication and real-time monitoring.

Myth #3: Kids can self-regulate their screen time and device use.

False. The part of the brain responsible for impulse control and decision-making doesn’t fully develop until around age 25. Kids have a hard time resisting the instant gratification from using a device, and they’re limited in their ability to think about the consequences of their actions online. 

Myth #4: Screens are always bad for kids.

False. Not all screen time is harmful because not all screen time is created equal. There are even potential benefits with educational apps, video chats with family, or creative tools like music and animation. The difference is whether screen time is active or passive. 

Myth #5: My child will tell me if something bad happens online.

False. Many kids hide their online issues out of fear of losing their device or getting in trouble. Consciously working to foster open communication with your child helps, but it’s still not a guarantee they won’t keep something important from you. 

Myth #6: If my child plays violent video games, they’ll act out aggressively.

False. This myth continues to persist, despite ample research disproving that video games cause violent behavior. That said, it’s still important to stay involved in your child’s gaming habits and know what kind of content they’re consuming.

Myth #7: My child knows more about technology than I do, so I can’t help them.

False. Your tech-savvy kid may be able to run circles around you when it comes to the technical side of things. But they lack the emotional maturity to navigate online threats like cyberbullying, grooming by predators, and misinformation. That’s where you come in.

Final word 

There are many myths about parenting in the digital age that are downright false, such as believing if your child knows more about technology than you do, there’s nothing you can do to help them maneuver life online. It’s important for parents to bust these myths and educate themselves about the reality of raising kids in the era of the internet. 

BrightCanary can help you supervise your child online. The app’s advanced technology scans their online activity (including social media, texts, YouTube, and Google searches) and updates when they encounter something concerning. Download the app and get started for free today.

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Nudify apps are a disturbing use of artificial intelligence (AI) that parents need to be aware of. These apps can transform a regular, clothed photo into a realistic fake nude image — usually without the person’s consent. And, unfortunately, teens are using them.

In this guide, we’ll break down what nudify apps are, the risks, and what parents can do to keep their kids safe.

What is a nudify app? 

A nudify app is a type of software that uses AI to generate fake nude images by removing clothing from a photo. These apps typically train their algorithms using large datasets of explicit images scraped from the internet, which allows the app to recreate realistic human anatomy and create deepfake images that appear startlingly authentic.

Why are nudify apps dangerous for kids?

Nudify apps pose serious emotional, reputational, legal, and digital risks, and the consequences can be long lasting. They include: 

1. Emotional distress

When a nudify app is used without a person’s consent and the resulting image is spread, the victim may feel violated, traumatized, and objectified. They may feel anxious about who might see the photo and unsafe at school if the perpetrators are classmates. 

2. Reputation damage

Because the images look so real, the person in the photo often suffers damage to their reputation when others think they posed consensually for the photo. (Yes, this is deeply unfair, but it’s unfortunately the way of the world, and parents and kids need to be aware.)

3. Permanent digital footprint

Once an image is online, it’s nearly impossible to fully erase. Even if it’s deleted, it’s often impossible to know if anyone printed, downloaded, or took a screenshot of the image. Images created on nudify apps may remain a part of a victim’s digital footprint indefinitely. 

4. Academic and extracurricular consequences

If your child creates or shares images made with a nudify app, they may be suspended, expelled from school, or kicked out of an extracurricular activity. 

Nudify apps are new territory for schools, and many have been accused of being too soft with how they reprimand kids who create nude images of their peers.

5. Legal implications for perpetrators

Nude images of minors, even when they’re generated by AI, is illegal under federal law. 

State laws vary, but kids have been charged with both misdemeanors and felonies. If found guilty, depending on the state, they may be required to register as a sex offender for the rest of their lives.

How to prevent your child from using nudify apps

The best solution is prevention. Here are some steps you can take: 

  • Set parental controls. Filter explicit content and block the most common nudify sites, such as Clothoff and undress.app.
  • Practice open communication. Talk to your child about the risks of nudify apps and encourage them to talk to you if someone uses an app to make images of them. 
  • Use a monitoring app. BrightCanary uses advanced technology to analyze your child’s online activity and flag any issues, such as if your child is Googling or texting about nudify apps.

How to talk to your child about nudify apps

Because the risks of nudify apps are so great, it’s vital that parents talk to their children about the issue. Here are some talking points to get you started: 

Consent 

It’s never too young to teach consent — start early and refresh often. Be explicit that using nudify apps violates the consent of the person in the photo and is never okay. 

Let them know there’s never any excuse for someone violating their consent in this way and that they should let you know if it ever happens. 

Digital responsibility 

Teach your children to be responsible digital citizens and think twice before they share anything online. If they suspect an image might be fake or if they think it might negatively impact the person in the picture, they shouldn’t share it. Instead, they should alert a trusted adult. 

Consequences 

Be direct and clear about the potential consequences of using a nudify app or sharing images created with one. Kids aren’t always great about thinking about the long-term implications of their actions, and they need to know how serious the fallout could be if they use these apps. 

The bottom line

Nudify apps use AI to turn clothed photos into fake nude images without the consent of the person in the picture. Use of these apps and websites can have devastating consequences for both the person in the image as well as the one who created it. 

Parents need to educate their children on the risks and take steps to monitor their online activity so they can immediately take action if their child is involved in a situation using nudify apps. 

BrightCanary can help you supervise your child online. The app’s advanced technology scans what they type and updates you in real-time when they encounter something concerning. BrightCanary provides the best coverage across Apple devices and online platforms where children are most at risk. Download the app for free today.

Two children using iPad for kids

If you’re wondering whether an iPad is a smart choice for your child, you’re not alone. The iPad is one of the most popular tablets for kids thanks to its portability, educational apps, and long battery life — but it also comes with important considerations. 

After all, with all the talk about the dangers of too much screen time, it can be hard to know if a tablet is the right choice for your kid. This guide will walk you through the pros and cons of iPads for kids, how to choose the best one, and how to set up an iPad with parental controls to ensure your child’s safety online.

Pros of an iPads for kids

  • Educational value: There is a plethora of educational content available for iPads, both in the form of passive learning (such as shows and audiobooks) as well as interactive apps. 
  • Creativity: From music-making to drawing to animation, there’s no shortage of apps that foster creativity and provide your child with the opportunity to express themselves. 
  • Entertainment on the go: Ideal for long car rides, flights, or waiting rooms.
  • Positive reinforcement: When implemented thoughtfully, rewards systems (such as earning tablet time) can be an effective parenting tool.
  • Child development: Research indicates potential benefits of iPad use, such as improving children’s vocabulary and math skills and boosting language use and social interaction in children with cognitive delays. 
  • Family connection: Apps like Facetime and Messenger Kids can help children stay in touch with family living far away.

Cons of giving a kid an iPad

  • Excessive screen time: Experts caution that excessive screen time may lead to problems in social-emotional development and contribute to certain behavior problems. Plus, when parents overuse devices to entertain their children, kids miss out on the benefits of boredom.  
  • Exposure to inappropriate content: Without safeguards, kids can stumble onto harmful material, including explicit images and violent videos.
  • Limited physical activity: iPads provide a limited sensory environment and no physical exertion. Extended use means less time spent moving or socializing offline. 
  • Risk of addictive behavior: Not all apps are created equal, and many labeled as educational have little to no such benefit. 
  • Privacy and data concerns: Many apps track behavior or serve ads based on activity.

Why do you want an iPad for kids?

As you decide if you should get your kid an iPad, one of the first things to do is to think about why you’re considering it and how you envision it being used. 

Perhaps you’re looking for an easy-to-transport distraction for long car rides. Maybe you’re interested in educational apps for their enrichment potential. Or maybe you’re keen to make sure your child keeps up with their tech-savvy peers. 

Identifying your motivation for getting a tablet for kids can help frame your decision as you weigh the pros and cons. 

Questions to ask yourself before you get an iPad for your kid

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends no devices for children younger than 2, with the exception of video chatting. Even if your child is old enough, that doesn’t necessarily mean an iPad is right for them. 

Here are some questions to ask yourself aside from age: 

  • Is my child able to follow rules and respect limits? 
  • Will my child tell me if they come across inappropriate content? 
  • Am I prepared to set (and maintain) rules and limits for iPad use? 

What’s the best iPad for kids?

If you're ready to purchase, here are popular options parents often choose:

  • iPad (10th Gen): A great all-around option for school and play.
  • iPad Mini: Compact and lightweight, ideal for smaller hands.
  • iPad Air: More powerful for older kids who might use it for school projects or video editing.
  • iPad + Kid-Friendly Case: Whatever model you choose, invest in a shockproof case to protect the device.

Tip: Refurbished iPads from Apple can be a great way to save money without sacrificing quality.

How to set up an iPad for kids

Once you’ve chosen a device, here’s how to make it safer:

1. Create an Apple ID for your child

Use Apple Family Sharing to set up an account for your child. This allows you to manage their settings and monitor usage.

2. Turn on Screen Time

Apple Screen Time lets you:

  • Set app time limits
  • Restrict content by age
  • Schedule downtime (device lock during bedtime)
  • Review activity reports

3. Set content restrictions

In Settings > Screen Time > Content & Privacy Restrictions, you can:

  • Block explicit content
  • Prevent purchases and downloads
  • Limit web browsing to kid-friendly sites

4. Use BrightCanary for enhanced monitoring

Apple’s built-in parental controls are helpful — but they don’t show you what your child is searching, watching, or texting.

BrightCanary fills that gap. With BrightCanary, you can:

  • View what your child types across all the apps they use, including texts, internet browsers, and messaging platforms.
  • Get alerts for concerning content in real time, including drug searches, explicit messages, and self-harm content.
  • Monitor YouTube watch history and Google searches for extra protection.

While it’s always a good idea to maintain some level of supervision over your child’s iPad time, a child safety app like BrightCanary is an excellent complement to your watchful eye. 

Establishing rules for iPad use

It’s best to set rules around iPad use from the very beginning. Be clear with your child about expectations and if there are consequences for not following them. 

The rules you set will depend on what’s right for your family, but here are some to consider:

  • Time limits: Decide how much iPad time is permitted each day and if that limit is the same on weekends and school breaks. 
  • When is iPad use allowed? Do you want iPad use to be at the same time each day, or can it vary? Are there times when screens are off-limits? Do you expect your child to do chores or homework before using their device? 
  • Device-free zones: Many families designate device-free zones, such as no devices in bedrooms to facilitate parental supervision. Or perhaps the dining table or family room are off-limits to encourage bonding time in these spaces. 
  • Content expectations: You might establish a designated list of apps and websites that your child can choose from, or a set of no-gos. Alternately, some parents expect their child to check in each time before using the iPad. 

Once you’ve established your family’s rules around iPad use, consider writing it into a digital device contract

Frequently asked questions

What is the best iPad for kids?

The standard iPad (10th Gen) is a great balance of affordability and features. The iPad Mini is better for smaller hands, while older kids might benefit from the iPad Air.

How do I set up parental controls on an iPad?

Go to Settings > Screen Time to create limits on app usage, content restrictions, and communication safety settings. You can also use BrightCanary for more detailed monitoring.

What age is appropriate for a kid to have an iPad?

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends limited screen time for kids under 5 and no personal devices under age 2. Most experts suggest waiting until at least age 6 or 7.

The bottom line

It’s important that parents consider both the pros and the cons before getting their child an iPad and establish clear expectations around its use. A tablet is a connected device, and as such, it can expose your child to the entire world of the internet. 

Parental control settings and monitoring apps can help give you peace of mind — and set a safety net for your child’s online experience. For the most comprehensive monitoring on Apple devices, including iPads for kids, you need BrightCanary. Get started for free today.

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Fanfic, short for fan fiction, is a popular medium where fans write new stories based on existing works. Fanfic creators draw inspiration from books, television, movies, and video games. It’s a huge phenomenon that’s captured the attention of many teens. But what is fanfic, and what are fanfics used for? 

If your child has latched onto the craze, consider this your primer. We’ll get into what fanfiction is, why it’s popular with teens, terms parents need to know, potential concerns, and how to help your child stay safe. 

What is fanfiction?

Fanfiction (or fanfic) is a genre of writing where fans use characters, settings, and plots from existing stories to create their own narratives. These stories often explore “what if” scenarios, new romances, alternate endings, or completely different worlds for familiar characters.

Where did fanfic come from?

Fanfic originated in Star Trek fanzines in the 1960s. Then, in the ‘90s, when the internet exploded, fanfic really took off. 

FanFiction.net gave fanfic writers a global platform to connect with readers, and other sites like Archive of Our Own (AO3) and Wattpad eventually followed. 

Why is fanfic so popular with teens?

Here are some of the reasons that people are drawn to write and read fanfic: 

  • More material to engage with on stories they love
  • Imagining “what if” as they expand on their favorite stories with new scenarios and storylines
  • Exploring new relationships (known as ships) between characters that aren’t featured in the original work
  • A sense of community
  • Creative expression

Fanfic terms parents should know

Fanfic is very jargon heavy. Here are some terms parents need to know:

  • Canon: Elements from the original source material, such as plot, setting, and character development.
  • AU: Short for alternate universe, AU is a story where the plot, setting, or characters deviate from the canon. 
  • Shipping: When fans root for two characters to get together romantically. 
  • Angst: A genre of fanfic that features emotional (and occasionally physical) torment of characters. 
  • Fluff: Fluff is the comfort food of the fanfic universe. These sweet stories are often short and don’t include any angst.
  • Smut: Stories where graphic sex is central to the plot. 
  • Adult: Stories intended for readers 18+ that feature explicit sexual content and/or violence. 
  • BNF: Short for Big Name Fan, this term refers to a fan (typically a writer) who has gained notoriety within a particular fandom.  

For more fanfic terminology, check out this handy glossary

Where do teens read and write fanfiction?

Fanfic communities are most active on platforms like:

  • Tumblr
  • Wattpad
  • AO3
  • FanFiction.net

Many of these platforms have large teen audiences and offer both public stories and private messaging, which can introduce safety risks.

Are there risks in reading fanfiction?

Although fanfiction can be a wonderful space for teens, there are some risks parents need to know:

  • Mature themes: Fanfic often features adult themes and situations, such as explicit sexual content or violence.
  • Unhealthy relationship dynamics: Some stories glorify unhealthy, abusive relationships.
  • Explicit material: Stories may include explicit sexual content and/or violence. 
  • Parasocial relationships: Teens may form one-sided attachments to characters or writers they adore.
  • Predators:A major element of fanfic is the opportunity for interaction between readers and between readers and writers through comments, reviews, direct messages, and forums. This could expose your teen to predators

How can I help my teen read and write fanfic safely? 

You don’t need to ban fanfiction, but you do need to stay involved. Here’s how:

  • Teach them how to find appropriate material. This includes paying attention to warning labels and being willing to abandon a story if it takes a dark turn. Not all stories are appropriately labeled. So, to be extra safe, suggest your teen start with stories sent to them by a trusted source and then expand by following those same writers.
  • Talk to your child about the content they might see. Explain that they may encounter material that makes them uncomfortable. Be clear some of the relationships and behavior in these stories isn’t okay. Let them know they can come to you if they read something that makes them uneasy.
  • Beware the comments section. Comments can include spam, harassment, or inappropriate content. If your child writes fanfic, have them consider turning off comments on their stories. When they read stories, encourage them to skip the comments.
  • Get engaged in what they’re reading. Check out the fanfic sites your teen frequents. Ask them to share their favorite stories with you.
  • Wait until they’re old enough. Most fanfic sites allow kids over the age of 13 to participate — but because of the mature content and other risks, it may be better suited to older teens. If your younger child wants to get involved, suggest they write and share stories with friends and consider vetting stories online for them to read.
  • Talk to them about predators. Make your child aware of the tactics predators use. Be clear they shouldn’t communicate on fanfic forums with people they don’t know, especially in private messages. 

How BrightCanary can help monitor fanfic activity

Fanfic itself isn’t dangerous — but the online spaces where it lives can be. That’s where BrightCanary can help.

BrightCanary can help you supervise your child on their iPhone or iPad. The app’s advanced technology scans their online activity (including what they type on social media, texts, and Google searches) and alerts you to anything concerning.

Download BrightCanary in the App Store and start for free today.

Final word 

Fanfic is a vibrant, creative community. While it does pose some risks to kids, with proper precautions, mature teens can participate safely. Parents should educate themselves on the fanfic community their child is interested in, educate them on the risks, and stay engaged with their activity on the site. 

BrightCanary is the best way to stay in the loop without overstepping. Try it free and give your child the safety — and independence — they need online.

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The warnings have been around for decades: violent video games lead to real-life violence. But this assertion doesn’t hold up to the scrutiny of current research. Some experts actually suggest potential positive benefits from violent video games. 

In this article, we’ll go over current research on violent video games, their potential upside, and how parents can make responsible choices when deciding whether or not to let their children play them. 

Does violence in video games lead to real-world aggression? 

From the media to politicians, the claim that violent video games cause violent behavior has been treated as fact. However, recent research doesn’t support this claim. 

  • A meta-analysis by the Stanford Brainstorm Lab found no conclusive evidence linking video games to real-life violent behavior.
  • The American Psychological Association revised its stance, stating, “There is insufficient scientific evidence to support a causal link between violent video games and violent behavior.”

While some studies have associated video games with aggressive behavior, current medical research and scholarship have not found any causal link between gaming and criminal violence.

Could violent video games have benefits for kids? 

Some experts argue that video games can provide developmental benefits when played in a healthy environment.

1. Supports emotional development

Safely imitating aggression in play — otherwise known as “playful aggression” — is developmentally beneficial. 

According to psychotherapist Katie Stickney Watson, LMHC, of Taproot Counseling Services, “Play is how children learn about the world around them, and playful aggression can support the healthy development of stress management, emotion regulation, and social skills like negotiation and conflict resolution.” 

2. Encourages problem-solving and critical thinking

Many video games, including those with violence, involve complex strategy, teamwork, and decision-making — skills that can translate to real-life problem-solving abilities. Plus, games that require kids to work with other players can help improve their communication and collaboration skills.

3. Provides a safe outlet for aggression

Aggression is a natural human emotion. Because natural impulses towards aggression don’t magically go away when banned, prohibiting children from using mock violence in their play may increase the chances they’ll engage in real violence. 

Watson says that violent video games can be a healthy form of playful aggression for kids and that as they become teens, “more sophisticated games may support them [in] learning and practicing these skills at more sophisticated levels.”

Of course, not every child will respond the same way to violent games. It’s important for parents to observe their child’s individual reactions.

Warning signs: When video games might be a problem

Does all this mean parents should let kids loose on violent video games with no supervision? Absolutely not. Watson cautions that children still need guidance to help them learn the boundaries between playful aggression and real harm. 

According to Watson, here are some warning signs that video games might be doing more harm than good:

  • Escalating aggression that causes pain or harm to others 
  • Difficulty with social skills such as respecting boundaries
  • Academic struggles
  • Social withdrawal
  • Lack of connection with friends and/or family around video games
  • Lack of enjoyment
  • Absence of a healthy sense of self

If you notice these warning signs, it may be time to adjust your child’s gaming habits and introduce more balance.

How to decide if violent video games are okay for your child

While research suggests violent video games don’t cause real-world aggression, every child is different. Parents should consider their child’s unique temperament, emotional regulation skills, and social interactions when making decisions about the media they let their child consume. 

Here are some points to consider:

  • Open communication is key. Watson’s biggest piece of advice for parents is to “foster open, supportive communication … get curious and ask questions to learn what draws [them] to these games and what benefits they are getting out of playing them.”
  • Engage with your child’s gaming. Watson suggests that connecting with your child over video games is helpful for fostering a positive parent-child relationship — and can make it more natural to step in if you notice any warning signs related to the games. 
  • Keep an eye on your child’s video game use. Play with your child, approve new games, and limit video game use to a common room where it’s easy to supervise. These steps are all ways to supervise what your child is playing and make sure their relationship with the games remains positive. 

Remember: parental involvement, rather than strict bans, is key to ensuring a positive gaming experience.

Final word: Do video games cause violence? 

Recent research suggests there isn’t a link between violent video games and violent behavior. Instead, video games — when played in moderation — can offer social, emotional, and cognitive benefits to kids. 

However, experts suggest that parents should remain actively engaged with their child’s video game habits, watching for any warning signs of problematic behavior and maintaining open conversations about online interactions.

BrightCanary can help you supervise your child’s online activity. While it doesn’t cover gaming platforms, the app’s advanced technology scans your child’s social media, Google, YouTube, and messages, so you can keep an eye on what media they’re consuming online — like video game playthroughs on YouTube and conversations with the friends they game with. Download today to get started for free.

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The internet can be a risky place for kids, which is why parents should play an active role in monitoring their child’s online activity. When that role becomes too active and crosses into micromanagement territory, those monitoring efforts can backfire — leading to secrecy, mistrust, and missed learning opportunities.

This guide will help parents find the right balance between monitoring and micromanaging, so they can keep their kids safe without being overbearing. 

Signs you might be micromanaging your child online

If you’re wondering whether you’re too involved in your child’s digital life, here are some signs you might need to pump the brakes: 

  • Reading every single text your child sends or receives
  • Checking their phone daily or multiple times a day
  • Failing to give them more autonomy as they mature 
  • Getting on their case every time they post something you don’t like
  • Not allowing them room to express themselves online 
  • Sweating the small stuff instead of focusing on major safety concerns

If you recognize these behaviors, it may be time to rethink your monitoring approach.

Why micromanaging your child online can backfire 

Generally speaking, micromanaging is not a particularly effective parenting strategy. Here are some of the ways micromanaging your child online may be counterproductive:

1. They won’t learn how to be independent

As parents, our job isn’t just to make sure our children act right in the moment. We also have to play the long game, teaching them the skills they need for adulthood. Micromanaging prevents kids from learning essential digital literacy skills and interferes with their natural development, making it harder for them to navigate online spaces safely on their own.

2. It takes away valuable learning opportunities

A benefit of giving kids access to online spaces and social media is that kids learn how to engage safely and responsibly while still under your guidance. When you micromanage your child online, they miss out on the opportunity to practice skills they’ll need later in life. 

3. It doesn’t respect their privacy

Children need (and deserve) appropriate levels of privacy and trust. When you constantly hover over their online spaces, kids can easily feel like you’re spying on them and that you don’t trust them. This can lead to secrecy, resentment, and a breakdown of trust.

4. It wastes your time

Half of U.S. teens receive over 237 notifications per day. That’s not even counting the messages they send! Trying to read every word is liable to eat up your precious free time. Most of what kids do and say online falls somewhere between innocent and ridiculous yet harmless. Pouring over every word is unrealistic and unnecessary.

When micromanaging might be necessary

Like all things in parenting, there are always outliers. While micromanaging is generally discouraged, there are times when more oversight is needed: 

  • If your child is particularly high-risk (struggling with mental health, cyberbullying, or online predators)
  • If they are engaging in unsafe behaviors online (such as sharing personal information or talking to strangers) 
  • If they are going through an especially difficult time where more supervision is temporarily beneficial 

In these cases, try to find little ways to give them independence and adjust as things normalize or they prove capable of managing themselves safely and responsibly online. 

How to monitor your child’s online behavior without micromanaging

Luckily, it’s possible to monitor your child online without micromanaging. Here are some strategies:

1. Utilize built-in parental controls 

Take full advantage of the free, built-in parental controls on your child’s device and the apps they use. Use tools like: 

2. Practice digital check-ins 

Set aside regular time to spend with your child where you look at your device together and discuss their online activity. Instead of reading everything, ask them about their social interactions. Keep the conversation open and non-judgmental.

This approach fosters trust and encourages kids to come to you when they have concerns.

3. Help your child set their accounts to private 

Teach your child how to adjust the privacy settings on their favorite apps, and explain why that matters. Not only does this step help protect them against contact from strangers, but it also helps limit the personal information they share online.

4. Use a monitoring service like BrightCanary

The most effective way to monitor your child online without micromanaging is with a service like BrightCanary, which was designed for Apple devices. The app uses advanced technology to scan your child's online activity and flags anything concerning. 

Did you know? BrightCanary’s text message summaries are great ways to skim your child’s text threads without having to read every message, and you can tap the “Concerning” tab to review anything potentially problematic.

Final thoughts

Monitoring kids online is vital for helping them stay safe. However, when parents are too involved, it can be counterproductive. Parents should find ways to monitor their child online without micromanaging. One particularly effective strategy is to use an AI-powered monitoring tool like BrightCanary. 

BrightCanary provides the best coverage across Apple devices and online  platforms where children are most at risk. Download the app and get started for free today.

teen girl looking at phone

If you’re considering monitoring your child’s online activity but are concerned about breaking their trust, you’re not alone. Many parents struggle with finding a balance between protection and privacy. 

So, how do you monitor your child’s online activity without damaging their trust? This guide will walk you through why online monitoring matters, how to approach it with transparency, and how to maintain your child’s privacy while keeping them safe.

Why parents should monitor their child’s online activity

The internet poses a number of threats to children and teens, from online predators to addictive algorithms. Here’s why online monitoring is crucial:

  • Protect them from online dangers: Kids can encounter cyberbullying, drug dealers, and risky conversations online.
  • Help them develop healthy digital habits: Setting boundaries teaches responsible tech use.
  • Prevent risky behaviors before they escalate: Early intervention can help prevent unsafe interactions or harmful digital footprints.

Kids need support to mitigate these dangers and learn how to navigate online spaces safely. That’s why experts recommend parents take an active role in monitoring their child’s online activity. 

How to monitor your child’s online activity without breaking trust

You need to monitor your child online, but you don’t want to break their trust, you want to respect their privacy, and you don’t want them to feel like you’re spying on them. These are all important things to consider, and it means you’re on the right track. 

Luckily, it’s possible to monitor your child online while still respecting their privacy and maintaining trust. Here are some tips: 

1. Be transparent

Don’t go behind their back. Monitoring your child online without their knowledge is spying, and it’s a surefire way to break their trust. Be transparent with them about your plans.

 They might not like the idea, but they’ll appreciate your honesty (although they’ll probably never admit it in a million years).  

2. Respect their privacy

Refrain from digging around on their phone for gossip or bringing up every little thing you notice. Focus your monitoring on safety issues and let your child decide what other aspects of their online world they want to share with you. 

3. Give them room to make mistakes 

Mistakes are how people learn. It’s especially valuable to let kids make their own mistakes when they’re still under your protective wing. It’s important to address major issues that you come across in your monitoring, but for issues that don’t impact their safety, give them room to fail so they can grow from their mistakes. 

4. Set clear expectations

Explain to your child exactly what behaviors are acceptable online and which ones aren’t. Otherwise, they’re likely to feel blindsided if you bring something up that they didn’t realize was a problem. Even better, put it in writing — a digital device contract helps set clear guidelines.

5. Don’t read everything 

Not only will you wear yourself out if you try to read every text, social media comment, and DM, but that level of scrutiny is likely to feel to your child like you’re spying on them. 

BrightCanary can help. The app uses advanced artificial intelligence to monitor your child’s online life without reading every message. It’ll summarize their activity and alert you to any concerns, allowing you to give them privacy while staying in the know on the big stuff. 

How to talk to your child about online monitoring

It’s perfectly natural to be nervous about talking to your child about online monitoring. It’s not a dynamic you had to navigate with your own parents, so this is new territory for you both. 

Having open conversations about online monitoring helps ease pushback and reduce secrecy. Here are some talking points to get you started: 

1. Explain the risks

Educate your child on the dangers of online spaces and why it’s so important for you to help them stay safe.

2. Focus on safety, not surveillance

Reassure them that monitoring isn’t about control — it’s about protection. Frame it as a partnership, not punishment.

3. Show that you trust them 

Make it clear that you trust your child, but you don’t trust Big Tech or social media companies. Frame this as a partnership between the two of you. 

4. Give them space to voice their concerns

Ask them how they feel about online monitoring, and take time to address their concerns and validate their feelings.

You may not be willing or able to address all of their concerns in the way they want, but it’s still valuable to hear them out, make adjustments where you can, and, above all, validate their feelings. 

5. Tailor the approach to their age

Younger kids need more hands-on supervision, while older teens can have more independence while following safety guidelines. Teens are also more likely to be resistant to the idea of being monitored, so be prepared to explain potential risks in an age-appropriate way.

In short 

It’s important for parents to take an active role in their child’s online activity, including monitoring them. This helps keep them safe. However, it’s equally important that parents approach their monitoring efforts in a way that’s respectful of their child’s privacy and helps build rather than break trust. This can be done through open communication, clear expectations, and a focus on safety. 

BrightCanary is a great tool for keeping an eye on what your child does online without spying on them or hovering. The app’s advanced technology scans your child’s activity and alerts you if there’s a red flag. That way, you can take action on the important stuff and give them their space on everything else. Download the app and start for free today.

Still of main character from Hazbin Hotel show on Amazon Prime

The animated musical series Hazbin Hotel has become incredibly popular despite having only one season released, with a second season planned for 2025. But is Hazbin Hotel for kids? 

Hazbin Hotel is located in Hell, and its proprietor is none other than Lucifer’s daughter, who offers sinners a chance at redemption to enter Heaven. Because the show originally rose to fame on YouTube, it has a lot of buzz among younger viewers. However, Hazbin Hotel is far from child-friendly. 

Here’s a breakdown of its age rating, mature content, and what parents should know before letting their child watch it.

Hazbin Hotel age rating

Is Hazbin hotel appropriate for kids? Not at all. The show has a rating of TV-MA (mature audiences, 17). It isn’t suitable for children.

  • TV Parental Guidelines: TV-MA (mature audiences, 17+).
  • Common Sense Media recommendation: Not suitable for viewers under 17 due to strong language, explicit sexual content, and extreme violence.

Parents should know that this is not a typical animated series. It is created for adults and contains themes that are inappropriate for younger viewers.

Heads up: If you’re concerned about what your child may be watching online, BrightCanary can help you supervise their YouTube history, Google searches, and more.

Language in Hazbin Hotel

If strong language is a concern for you, Hazbin Hotel is definitely not kid-friendly. It would take nearly this entire article to list all of the profanity and questionable language used in Hazbin Hotel. 

  • Frequent swearing throughout every episode.
  • Sexually explicit language and crude jokes.
  • Characters regularly use graphic insults and vulgar gestures.

Bottom line: the characters have the exact vocabulary you might expect from a group taking up residence in the fiery pits of Hell. 

Is there sex and nudity in Hazbin Hotel?

Yes, Hazbin Hotel contains strong sexual themes. 

  • Sexualized nudity: While nudity is minimal and is limited to non-frontal views, there are plenty of sexualized references to naked bodies. 
  • Explicit sexual references: Characters frequently discuss sex in graphic and inappropriate ways. Sex is sometimes shown, and there are plenty of innuendos that may or may not go over your child’s head. 
  • Prostitution: One main character is a sex worker under the thumb of a violent pimp. 
  • Threats of sexual violence: These occur both as jokes and serious moments, making the content even more troubling for younger viewers.

The frequent sexual content makes Hazbin Hotel highly inappropriate for kids and young teens.

Is there violence in Hazbin Hotel?

There’s no getting around the fact that Hazbin Hotel is an extremely violent show, even by adult animation standards. (Granted, any violence is animated, which does make the impact a little less intense.) 

The pilot sets the tone right out of the gate, opening on the bloody aftermath of extermination day: an annual event where any sinner or demon found in plain sight is violently culled. 

Weapons of every sort abound and are regularly used. Characters pour gasoline on their heads and set themselves on fire, and sexual violence is a common occurrance. 

Is Hazbin Hotel scary?

Hazbin Hotel certainly strives to strike fear into its audiences. The show is a horror series set in Hell, after all. The show features:

  • Frightening imagery, including demons, gory scenes, and unsettling character designs.
  • Dark humor that may disturb younger viewers.
  • Psychological horror themes, including power struggles and torture.

The frequent violence is likely to scare many children, especially younger ones. 

Is there substance use in Hazbin Hotel?

While substance use isn’t as rampant in Hazbin Hotel as violence and sex, it’s certainly present. The show features a lot of drinking and some instances of drug use and references. 

Final thoughts 

So, is Hazbin Hotel appropriate for kids? No. Despite its animated format, Hazbin Hotel is an adult show with extreme violence, explicit sexual themes, strong language, and mature content. It is not recommended for anyone under 17.

Parents should be aware that even if their child isn’t watching Hazbin Hotel, they may encounter clips, memes, and discussions about the show on YouTube, TikTok, and other social media platforms.

How to monitor your child’s exposure to Hazbin Hotel

If you’re concerned about Hazbin Hotel content appearing in your child’s social media feeds or search history, parental monitoring tools like BrightCanary can help.

  • BrightCanary alerts you if your child searches for concerning content.
  • The app analyzes YouTube videos, Google searches, text messages, and social media activity to help parents stay informed. 
  • It also gives you insights into trending content so you can discuss it with your child.

Want to keep tabs on what your child is exposed to online? Try BrightCanary today for free.

Family looking at tablet with Google parental controls together on couch

Knowing what your child searches for online and what sites they browse is a valuable tool for keeping them safe on the internet. Setting up Google parental controls through Google Family link helps parents filter content, manage screen time, and monitor app activity. However, these tools also have limitations. In this article, we’ll go over how to set up Google parental controls, where those controls fall short, and how to fill in the gaps. 

Why should I monitor my child’s Google account? 

The internet is a fabulous resource, but it can also be a risky place for children and teens. As a parent, it’s important to know if they encounter potential risks, such as: 

  • Inappropriate content (adult images, self-harm material, or substance-related searches)
  • Online predators and scams
  • Harmful algorithmic recommendations on social media

Monitoring your child’s Google account can help you protect them from digital dangers and support them in making good choices. 

How do I put parental controls on Google? 

Google Family Link screenshots

To set up Google parental controls, you’ll need to use Google Family Link. Here’s how:

Step 1: Set up Google Family Link

  1. Go to familylink.google.com or download the Google Family Link app. 
  2. Sign in with your Google account and create a new account for your child (or link an existing account).
  3. Follow the onscreen prompts to set up supervision.

Step 2: Enable parental controls

Once you've added supervision to your child's Google account, here are some of the things you can do:

  • Filter explicit results on Search.
  • Manage your child’s access to websites.  
  • Let your child access Google Assistant through a controlled account.
  • Adjust account settings. 
  • Set app and screen time limits. 
  • Check the location of their device. 
  • Set content restrictions for all Google services such as Chrome, YouTube, and Search & Play.
  • Require approval for downloads and purchases

Heads up: Google Family Link gives parents control over their child’s digital environment, but it doesn’t provide full visibility into all online activity.

What happens to my child’s Google account when they turn 13?

At age 13 (or the applicable age in their country), children using Family Link can choose to continue parental supervision or manage their own Google account.

If your child is over 13 or has a birthday coming up and you’d like them to be on a supervised account, explain your reasons to them and discuss options together. 

As children mature, it makes sense to adjust your approach to supervising them, so it may be appropriate to keep their managed account in place but loosen some of the restrictions.

What can Google parental controls see?

Google’s parental controls don’t provide unlimited access to a child’s account. Here’s what it allows you to see:

  • Device location tracking
  • Account information, such as name and date of birth (you can also change these)
  • Which apps they install from the Google Play Store and usage time
  • The battery level on their device
  • Ability to reset passwords or delete accounts

Google’s parental controls don’t:

  • Show Google and YouTube search history
  • Provide insights into viewed images and videos
  • Offer text message or social media monitoring

Where Google parental controls come up short

Although Google parental controls are a valuable tool, they don't provide comprehensive monitoring. Many parents want to know what their kids are searching for, watching, or messaging about, especially for kids and younger teens — but Google doesn’t provide that level of visibility. 

BrightCanary fills in the gaps left by Google parental controls. Using powerful artificial intelligence, BrightCanary scans your child’s activity on their phone and the internet and alerts you to any red flags. This allows you to stay informed without the headache of scanning through a long list of Google searches or their entire YouTube history. 

How to get full online visibility with BrightCanary

While Google parental controls help with basic filtering, BrightCanary goes beyond by providing on concerning activity. Here’s how it works:

  • Monitors Google and YouTube searches 
  • Tracks social media activity and text message threads
  • Flags concerning messages and online interactions 
  • Provides AI-powered alerts instead of overwhelming parents with data

Want to enhance your child’s online safety? Try BrightCanary for free today.

Final thoughts

Google parental controls are a useful tool for keeping your child safe on the internet. However, they fall short when it comes to fully monitoring their online activity. 

In order to keep an eye on their Google searches, viewed images, and YouTube watch history, you’ll need a third-party monitoring app like BrightCanary. And, as always, keep ongoing and open conversations with your child about their digital world. Here’s how to have an online safety check-in.

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